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Making a Commitment to Building Your Business

I shot this quick video about making a commitment to building your business while staying at one of my favourite bed and breakfasts, Blackberry Lane Bed & Breakfast. This is my go to hideaway to de-stress and recharge and is located less than an hour from where I live.

This eTip asks the question: How hard are you willing to work to make your business a success?

How hard are you willing to work to succeed?

My husband Daniel and I have very demanding schedules that begin at 5:30 am and don’t stop until about 8 pm at night.

It can be exhausting!

but it’s also extremely rewarding to have a successful business.

One of the things that dawned on me during this visit is how alike I am with Andy and Marlene, the owners of this B&B.

Since the B&B is located on a farm, when I arrived Marlene was decked out in full farming gear, working away keeping this place properly maintained. Her next task was to hop onto a riding mower and mow some acreage. After she was done she got to come in and start cooking!

Meanwhile Andy was busy at his full time job, which he does after he’s done his morning farm chores. When he finishes his day he heads home for even more farm chores. Their days are long and tough.

I’m familiar with that kind of a demanding schedule as I grew up on a hobby farm full of animals. It was a lot of work and my parents were always up well before I ever was just so they could feed the animals and maintain the farm (this included milking the family cow, Emma). This was all done while working full time jobs in Vancouver, which was an hour away in each direction.

This brings things back to my original question: how hard are you willing to work?

I hear a lot from clients about the distractions pulling them away from work. So the question then becomes: how important is your business to you if so many other things take priority?

You can’t magically succeed in business, so if you’re not able to commit to the business, don’t expect it to thrive. You have choices to make. Are you willing to make the sacrifices needed to build a successful business?

We’ve all read about the magical 4-hour work week but the number of people that kind of schedule is applicable to is minuscule.

How far are you willing to go and how hard will you work to make your business succeed?

When I first started eVision Media, my schedule was even more demanding. So even looking at my schedule now and how much I have to work, it took a lot just to get my business to where it is.

If you need help making the hard choices so you can succeed, please get in touch. I love to help people by mentoring them through their distractions so they prioritize their business and build the success they’re after.

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Susan Friesen

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Susan Friesen offering 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum ResultsSusan Friesen, founder of the award-winning web development and digital marketing firm eVision Media, is a Web Specialist, Business & Marketing Consultant, and Social Media Advisor. She works with entrepreneurs who struggle with having the lack of knowledge, skill and support needed to create their online business presence.

As a result of working with Susan and her team, clients feel confident and relieved knowing their online marketing is in trustworthy and caring hands so they can focus on building their business with peace of mind at having a perfect support system in place to guide them every step of the way.

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How Committed Are You To Your Business?

Today’s eTip asks you an important question – just how committed are you to your business?

Today I want to ask you a question, just how committed are you to your business?
Over the years I’ve noticed some entrepreneurs are a bit lackadaisical about their approach to their business. They’ll take tons of time off, especially during the summer.

They have lots of reasons not to work on their business; either their kids need them or their parents need them or their husband needs them. The laundry is far more important than actually working on their business…

So that’s why I’m asking that question today because if you are not really super committed to actually creating a business as opposed to a hobby or finding that next to ‘get rich quick scheme’ and just making a load money that you think you can make watching all of these gurus online.

Think about that… how committed are you to your business?

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There is no right or wrong answer. Of course I’m not judging you here. I just want to help you clarify what is it that you are willing to do, what is it that you are willing to commit to in order to make your business actually a success, if that’s what you want.

It may be best to even define what success means to you.

Sometimes making money is not the ultimate goal here. Sometimes you need to feel more fulfilled, feel like you are following your life’s purpose.

Whatever that means to you, make a commitment.

Make a commitment to actually fulfill whatever your dream is and not waste any time and let excuses get in the way of preventing you from fulfilling that dream.

Do a one-year or five-year plan. Try to think about what is it that you really want to accomplish. Are you just making some extra cash or are you really trying to build a business?

If you are really trying to build a business, what exactly are you committed to? Are you going to work five, six, seven days a week or are you going to allow a lot of excuses to get in the way to stop you from doing the work that needs to be done in order to create a lifelong sustainable business?

Let me know what you think! Leave a comment below and if you have any questions or comments I’ll be sure to answer.

To your success,

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About the Author, Susan Friesen

Susan Friesen offering 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum ResultsSusan Friesen, founder of the award-winning web development and digital marketing firm eVision Media, is a Web Specialist, Business & Marketing Consultant, and Social Media Advisor. She works with entrepreneurs who struggle with having the lack of knowledge, skill and support needed to create their online business presence.

As a result of working with Susan and her team, clients feel confident and relieved knowing their online marketing is in trustworthy and caring hands so they can focus on building their business with peace of mind at having a perfect support system in place to guide them every step of the way.

Visit www.ultimatewebsiteguide.ca and download your FREE "Ultimate Guide to Improving Your Website's Profitability - 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum Results".

7 Essential Keys to Developing Self-Trust

7 Essential Keys to Developing Self-Trust

Reflecting back on my life, I remember feeling so envious of people who felt comfortable in their own skin and radiated self-confidence at the time when I felt like a shrinking violet.

A vivid memory that stands out is when I was in my early 20s, sitting in the audience watching a man on stage giving a lecture about the benefits of meditation.  I was mesmerized, not by his words, but by his presence.

He wasn’t particularly good-looking, nor did he have a ‘killer’ body; it wasn’t even that he was charismatic.  So what was it about him that utterly riveted my attention?

He was relaxed and comfortable in himself. He trusted himself completely.

Observing him sharing his thoughts and personal stories, and later fielding questions from the audience, I knew that my first step was to learn how to meditate and that more would be revealed.

Practicing meditation calmed and released my stress, supported my composure under pressure and heightened my awareness.  I noticed that:

  • I said, “Yes” when I wanted to say, “No” or, at least, “I don’t know, can I get back to you?”
  • I caved in to others’ ideas and suggestions, letting my own input bite the dust.
  • I watched how I undermined my own decision-making, second-guessing myself.
  • I routinely put other people’s needs and desires before my own.
  • I tried so hard to be perfect or what others seemingly wanted me to be.
  • And, I realized that I didn’t trust myself.

I came to understand over time that you cannot be trusted unless you trust yourself completely, and you cannot trust others if you do not trust yourself!

It became my imperative to develop self-trust.  On the one hand, it is an ongoing project but, on the other hand, it really is doable. Here’s how I did it:

  1. Developing self-trust begins with the daily practice of grounding and centering.

    One of my biggest obstacles was that I developed a preference as a child for being out of my body. It felt safer to be out than in; after all, if I were in my body, I would have to feel all the pain I was in.
     
    I now call this “faulty problem-solving.”  That is, you ostensibly solve one problem but, in actuality, are creating another.  Not only does being out of your body leave your body unattended and defenseless but all of your resources like your intellect, intuition, feelings and innate body intelligence and strength can only be experienced when you are in the body.
     
    And, there’s more: when you are ungrounded, you are scattered, feel overwhelmed, anxious, run late, and will say anything in the moment (because you are not connected to your truth).
     
    I saw that this was the core of my own lack of self-trust and that, in truth, I was not trustworthy.  I became highly motivated to become a woman of integrity.
     
    There are many ways to get grounded and centered.  The one we teach is a simple breathing and visualization process.  Some people are naturally grounded, others spend time in nature or in their garden.
     
    For those whose childhood was challenging, getting back into your body is the way to protect yourself going forward and to release the pain of the past, so it no longer holds you back.

  2. Say what you mean, mean what you say and don’t say anything if you are unsure.

     
    This takes discipline and practice, but is essential to developing self-trust.
     
    At first, I only noticed that I had just committed to do something I had no desire to do after the fact.  Although I was horrible embarrassed, I forced myself to clean it up, apologizing for wasting the person’s time.
     
    After doing this several times in a row, I was able to catch my words mid-sentence in the moment, and take them back.  “Oh, just listen to me!  I have no business saying, ‘yes’ to this request.  Excuse me, please.”
     
    Finally, I was rewarded: I was able to catch the habitual pattern of giving myself away before I spoke.  Although I couldn’t bring myself to say, “no” right away, I would let the person know I needed to think about it, check my schedule and would get back to them by a certain time.
     
    This is such a great technique: buying some time versus acting from a programmed response was liberating!  It allowed me to renew my grounding and then to see what was my truth?

  3. Be self-loyal: keep the promises you made to yourself

     
    When you have a pattern of giving yourself away piece-by-piece, you put your own goals at the bottom of your priorities. You keep telling yourself that you will take a walk or a nap to renew your energy when it slumps, but somehow it always slips your mind or you rationalize that you are too busy today (and every day).
     
    How often do you ‘forget’ to go to the ATM or even to go to the bathroom when you need to?
     
    A word here about making and keeping your promises to others. It’s not a good idea to make promises to others if you haven’t kept the ones you previously made!
     
    Pull the rug on yourself!  Share that you are mortified that you broke past promises and while you are working to rectify that in yourself, you will let your actions speak louder than your words.
     
    Then make sure that you do.  Trust is earned.

  4. Be responsible for handling your own needs, without drama or depleting others.

     
    Consistently handling your own needs, with no muss or fuss, is the way to show up responsibly.
     
    Making sure you are grounded before you show up at work or deal with problems in the home, allows you to be your best self. Neediness pushes others away.  Running drama is toxic and completely out of integrity as you are compromising and depleting others.
     
    Years ago, I made a new agreement, that I have kept, to handle my own needs at the beginning of the day, even if it meant getting up a little earlier than usual.  Handling my own needs, supported me in being able to give focused attention to my clients, without resentment.

  5. Decide what integrity means to you, what it looks like and sounds like and be in integrity!

     
    Your integrity is your own code of ethics, no matter how the people around you behave, it’s how you behave. Your self-esteem flows from your integrity.

  6. Avoid people who support you in keeping the old patterns alive.

     
    These are the people who undermine your self-trust; they are the ones who try to talk you out of what’s best for you, make light of the issues that you are working on, so that they can still run their own energy-sapping behaviors around you!
     
    When you are ungrounded, you make other people work harder – you forget key details and need to be reminded, you show up late for appointments and sessions with professionals, perhaps without your checkbook!
     
    When you clean up your own act, the behavior of others comes to the fore. Do the individuals who surround you support you? Do they add value?  Do you really want them in your life?

  7. Remember that building self-trust is a journey: if you screw up, forgive yourself (and clean up your mess.)

     
    Developing self-trust also includes treating yourself like a best friend. A best friend is patient when they see that you are really committed to new behavior.  They will even partner you in gently catching the old programmed responses and question them.  “Is this really what you want to say?  Is this your truth?”
     
    So, the next time you make a mistake and criticize yourself harshly, catch yourself, and instead say, “Oh, there’s that old pattern again,” or “Oops, let’s try that again.”  Creating a safe internal environment for embracing change is essential, so do yourself a favor and start today!

    I know that many people are looking for the instant fix, to pop a pill as it were, and as such I was tempted to call this article, The Fastest and Easiest Path to Self-Trust,” or “Three Shortcuts to Developing Self-Trust,” but I would be out of integrity in doing so.
     
    No, it is a journey.  Somedays you feel triumphant and exhilarated as you demonstrate a new behavior; other days, you feel as though you haven’t made any progress at all.  But even two steps forward and one backward is progress.  You will succeed if you keep on, keeping on!

If this article touched a chord in you, or if you would like to share what works for you, we would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below.

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

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How to Unpack Resistance Not Serving You or Your Business

How to Unpack Resistance Not Serving You or Your Business

Saying “No” to Outdated Relationships and Situations and Saying “yes!” to Your Success Instead

This year, I avoided all of the hoo-ha associated with making New Year’s Resolutions.

I made my commitment on December 1st to spend an hour a day, five or more days a week, exercising my body!

Now, I don’t make commitments lightly, because my word is my bond, and I understand the difference between being interested (you’ll do whatever is convenient) versus committed (you’ll do whatever it takes). So, what changed?

I had a new thought. I realized that I had been interested in supporting my body through diet and exercise but not committed. It hit me that I needed my body to support me more than ever over the years ahead but that I was not doing my part to support it.

Then ‘the big a-ha’ hit: everything in life comes down to vibrational frequency.

The higher your frequency, the happier, healthier, the more successful you are and the more you attract high vibrational people and opportunities.

While I grounded and centered, meditated and (mostly) ate whole foods daily, there was another area that was critical, and it was the one I had resisted for 10 years. Oh sure, I stretched most nights but in spite of my beloved Victor’s reticence, I used the time to chatter and play, versus actually connecting with my body.

Since December, Victor and I do our yoga practice to music but in silence. Holding each pose for 4 full breaths and tuning into my body to ensure that I am holding no unnecessary tension has been transformative.

In two months, I appreciate that I have been resisting what supports me the most!

I am stronger, more flexible, more alive. I am sleeping better, my skin is better and I have stabilized my weight. On the downside, it took me ten years to get it! On the upside, the only time is now!

To what outdated relationships or situations are you clinging?

Resisting change seems to be a human frailty.

And yet, ironically, we all know the only thing that is constant on Earth is change! Resistance often comes from a lack of trust – if you release a toxic relationship, personal or professional, will it be replaced by someone better or will you be left feeling that you cut off your nose to spite your face?

Holding on to either relationships that have run their course or to relationships that enmesh you in low frequency, like gossip, negative thinking, fear-based thinking or being at the effect of someone else’s chronic disorganization, is a way to keep yourself stuck.

Whatever you say, “yes” to, you merge with.

Which of your relationships, client, vendor, colleague or personal, are irritating you, frustrating you, limiting you and wasting your precious time? They are demanding to be disintegrated.

The act of letting go, difficult as it may be, will liberate you.

The pain only comes when we are unwilling to let go. Saying, “no” to outdated relationships and situations is saying, “yes!” to oneself.

Where are you diminishing yourself through limited thinking and outdated beliefs?

How many thoughts do you have in day? Researchers say the range is between 12,000 and 50,000, and as many as 70% – 80% of them are negative! Even worse, most of us thought those very same negative thoughts yesterday, and the day before that…

Negative thoughts attack your clarity, muddy your insight and create a mood of anxiety, even if, in actuality, everything is going well. Worse still, experts agree that thinking the same negative thought over and over can create the very dire set of circumstances you fear!

Many of us picked up this pattern of negative thinking from our parents; it was reinforced as we grew up as we realized most every other person does this too, but does that make it acceptable?

It’s a habit, and habits can be changed.

Of course, changing a habit is going to bring up resistance but only if you don’t see the benefits of change for you.

Releasing your doubts and fears, recognizing that your fears have nothing to do with reality and refusing to attack yourself anymore allows you to own the skills you have acquired and master the skills needed to achieve what you long for most deeply.

It can be as simple as saying, “Cancel! Cancel! Cancel!” to a negative thought and then replacing it with a positive one.

Which tasks or situations are challenging for you?

Resistance can be found in any situation that you are struggling with in life.

Sometimes the resistance lies in simply asking for help. Why is it so hard to ask for help? You may have been shamed as a child or young adult, or you may have bought into the need to be perfect, or you may have been brainwashed by corporate life in seeing asking for help as a sign of weakness.

Instead, my business partner and I say, “This is not a going it alone lifetime! Together we are stronger!”

As long as you ask for help cleanly, not guilt-tripping anyone or seeking to manipulate them, and as long as you are willing for them so say, “no” or “not now” it’s healthy to ask for help.

In fact, not asking for help denies others the opportunity to share their gifts and talents and their love and friendship with you. We all need to feel that we are making a contribution.

Resisting asking for help can create a vulnerability in your business.

In our Doing Business Consciously 6-month course, we say that you must know what you don’t know. Hiring a professional who has a demonstrated track record of expertise in that area allows you to focus on what you do know and activities that only you can do, as ‘the secret sauce’ in your own business!

Are you open to your emotions and feelings?

We understand that many people are intimidated by the power of their feelings and are afraid to express them. Unfortunately, when you bottle up your feelings of rage and grief, disappointment and resentment, they leak over your clients, colleagues and loved ones.

And, if you continue to resist them, they can cause a dis-ease in your body, that leads to an outburst where you are out of control and say things that can never be taken back. The underlying cause of most diseases is unprocessed feelings and wounds.

The secret is to process your feelings in private because underneath your feelings is an insight that you have not been aware of.

Once you understand why your emotions have been triggered, you can express yourself in a calm and rational manner that can be heard. It’s important to recognize that you never get angry for no reason – it’s because a boundary has been overstepped or you have felt ‘dissed’ in some way; resentment comes from saying, “yes” when you wanted to say, “no.” Then, you can accept that your feelings are a gift.

Are you ready to see yourself and your life through new eyes?

We are in the midst of vast, sweeping change. Anything that no longer serves you needs to be destroyed to make way for the new.

Just like extracting a rotten tooth provides relief to the entire body, letting go of toxic and stagnant relationships and situations will fill you with new energy, motivation and a shift in your perception that allows for total transformation.

Ultimately, like me, you may see that you have been resisting your greatest good.

I’d love to hear your comments and questions below!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!