Have you ever wondered why you fret in the way you do, and another can come in and see the big picture so easily and not get so sucked into worry?
Do you find that you can easily give advice to others and yet not be so inspirational with action that should be your own next best move?
In my last three decades of business leadership I have come to see three very important lessons which seem to underpin behaviour that unnecessarily exacerbates worry.
I hope these will bring you some understanding, and perhaps you might become enthused to do your own exploration with these three points.
As your own personal awareness increases, I hope that will begin to inform your future decision making too, simultaneously lightening your load.
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Release Attachment
When we see a situation from a detached place, with no personal investment for a prefixed goal to materialise, we seem to have greater clarity.
For example, if a person has been pushing uphill for a while in a new business without too many customers, a detached perspective will easily consider the closure/merger/collaboration of such a business but a person who is totally attached to a certain concept may struggle with entertaining such a decision.
This is why an arbitrary, hands off “ear” can do wonders for us as business leaders.
With a detached perspective, it is as if, all possibilities are available to you and it is exactly that which makes your business venture a thrill to be in. Expansion is felt, and along with that joy too. Also, without attachment less stress is felt too, because everything becomes more of an exploration of what is possible and less of a personal burden that has to be carried by the owner.
With a detached view, your own energy also arrives at the workplace more whole as less is being spent in control and worry. Detachment, by its nature embodies an implicit trust that all is well, and all will be well.
Trust is not easy to canvas, but for some comes easier than others. However if concerted effort can be made to clear up the fears that prevent us from being trusting, much dividend can be reaped. -
Compulsion for Success
On balance, we are programmed to fear “failure” and thus sadly shun half of the inevitable journey we will face. Failure will be part of our journey, and if we can include it without judgment, our leadership role will automatically be filled with a broader perspective.
Experiences are merely happening to improve our self-leadership. This implies that any blind spots we have not seen will be given continuous opportunities to be ironed out for us to have a more enjoyable overall life and business experience.
Thus, the idea that success is the only goal gets in our way of leading our business worry free. This seems so counter intuitive doesn’t it? A straight-line journey of success is impossible and yet we start our ventures almost hypnotized to the idea that success is compulsory- an unrealistic target.
I have found that the more we take in our stride the “Failures” and embody the learnings and teachings from those experience, the greater our chances of reaching a success point we could not have pre-imagined.
Failure is not a mistake. It is an opportunity for development. It is a chance to have something exposed that you would not otherwise have seen, let alone grow beyond. Embracing the peaks and valleys of business makes for a more sustainable business model. -
Survival Fear
At our core we are concerned as to whether we can take care of ourselves and financially support ourselves. The fear to “not have enough” is somehow fueled by society and it hypnotizes us to worry, whether we want to or not. Sometimes, even when we have money in the bank, this invisible ideas keep fueling our perspectives.
We do not have a society in which the moto, “I have enough for now” even exists. Yet moment to moment, our breathing is taken care of- we always have enough breaths for that day until our last arrives.
As a humanity we have living proof that we keep discovering new concepts and expanding beyond yesteryear- we always seem to have enough for that now! And we are creative people who keep coming up with new ideas regularly.
So if you can be aware, that this “I do not have enough” comes from societal programming, we can start doing the work to transform this belief into “I have enough for now”.
With this latter perspective, clearly worry begins to dissipate.
If you are aware that any of these three factors are affecting your current business leadership and or performance, feel free to consider the use of the Dalian Method to eliminate the underlying fears, so that the underlying worry can be transformed. This is a self help tool which can be taught and practiced with at home.
Wishing you the best in your endeavours.
About the Author, Kindi Gill ACA
Kindi is a former CEO who offers Self-Awareness Executive Coaching, teaches principles of Consciousness and specializes in Change & Mental Health as a Professional Speaker.
Kindi has been a student of the Dalian School for Health and Consciousness and is a Facilitator of the Self Healing Dalian Method, an evolutionary tool for Transformation. Kindi has shared this system with hundreds of people, since founding Spark Expansion Consulting in 2015, and without fail, adults, teenagers and children delight in their changes.
Call Kindi at 778-558-5110 for help in getting your business and personal life back on track to achieve its natural full potential or visit www.www.InwardLeadership.com for her free leadership report.
