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Building a Successful Guilt-Free Business

In today’s eTip I spoke with Yvonne Hogenes from Malary’s and Firmawear Energy Wear (among other things) while at the Woman of Worth event recently and I grabbed her to talk about the guilt we can feel as moms when we’re balancing parenting with running a business.

I let Yvonne takes the reigns so she could share her advice for every mother out there who may have concerns about the lifestyle of an entrepreneurial mom.

Yvonne has some great words of wisdom for all mothers running a business


Yvonne:

I remember when my boys were 9, 11, and 13 it was a busy time with them just getting into sports, and I decided I had to follow my dream which wound up being my store Malary’s.

I knew at the time it would take a lot of time and energy, although had I known the real amount demanded I may have been more hesitant.

It’s very important to have a plan.

I did the hard work and mapped out my five-year plan before I took the plunge.

Once I dove in it was all consuming. And it has to be for it to work.

I felt guilty as a mom. My kids would laugh because if I sat down for 3 minutes on the coach, I was asleep.

Years later… my boys are in the business with me!

My boys knew why I was tired and they learned by example that having a strong work ethic brings success.

That support was not limited to my kids. My husband, my family, and my friends and staff carried me through to where I am today.

But the guilt that comes with being a mother was still there.

Accept that if you’re doing what you love your kids will learn by watching. What they learn is probably more valuable than any book lesson.

When they needed someone at their games to watch them play their dad was always there.

By giving myself room to work on my business I was able to succeed and everyone around me was able to help by picking up any slack.

I embraced my working mom lifestyle while going through it and now that my kids are employees they thank me for it.

Business owner is a tough role but 20 years later I’m still finding the same level of support that makes it all work.


How to get in touch with Yvonne

The best way is malarys.com which has links to Firma (which is a fantastic product) and other local designers she works with.

She’s in Cloverdale in Fraser Valley and features lots of local, Canadian designers so she’s well worth checking out.

If you’re a working mom or a mom thinking about getting into entrepreneurship and business and need help, then please get in touch. I have helped many women both mothers and not get into business and I would love to mentor you through the process of starting your own business.

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Until next time,
Susan Friesen

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About the Author, Susan Friesen

Susan Friesen offering 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum ResultsSusan Friesen, founder of the award-winning web development and digital marketing firm eVision Media, is a Web Specialist, Business & Marketing Consultant, and Social Media Advisor. She works with entrepreneurs who struggle with having the lack of knowledge, skill and support needed to create their online business presence.

As a result of working with Susan and her team, clients feel confident and relieved knowing their online marketing is in trustworthy and caring hands so they can focus on building their business with peace of mind at having a perfect support system in place to guide them every step of the way.

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Getting Out of Social Media Overwhelm

How Dana Smithers, the founder of Empowered Women In Business, Benefits from Social Media Training

Dana Smithers If you are struggling with how to use social media to make a massive following for your business, you’ll love this interview my marketing assistant, Kristi Notto, had with Dana Smithers recently.

Dana is the founder of Empowered Women in Business and is a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide and a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer.

She was feeling overwhelmed with trying to make social media work for her business and joined my Social Blast: eMarketing for Entrepreneurs group program a few years ago to help get her the clarity and strategy she was lacking.

Read what she had to say about the difference that Social Blast made in her business: 


Kristie: Tell me a little bit about you and what you do.

Dana: My clients are women solopreneurs who are stuck in their business and not achieving the results that they want for all their hard work. I help them get aligned to their Sacred Gifts and their purpose so they can attract the right clients to build their business.

If there are emotional blocks, I support them through teaching them about the Law of Attraction, and I release negative-trapped emotions with an energy-healing process called the Emotion Code.


Kristie: What challenges were you facing with social media before you joined Social Blast?

Dana: Overwhelm mainly. There are too many people telling you what you need to be doing but not showing you ‘how to’ and also ’why’ one social media platform is better than another.

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Kristie: When you heard about the Social Blast group what drew you to sign up?

Dana: Susan has been my ‘web goddess’ for almost 10 years and I knew if she was offering a program about how to use social media then it would be not only be professional but very informative.

I want to be ‘leading edge’ when it comes to coaching and mentoring my clients on what they need to be doing with social media to grow their business.


Kristie: What features of Social Blast did you find most helpful?

Dana: Susan asks what topics the group would like covered; she records each session; she has a very step-by-step approach in her material which makes her a great teacher – she makes it fun!


Kristie: What’s the biggest benefit you gained as a result of being a member Social blast?

Dana: Narrowing down the number of social media platforms I was on to make my time more focused and results-oriented.

Since I also mentor women entrepreneurs in which platforms are best for them, I needed to really know how to help them build their business. Everything I learn from Susan I can pass on to them, and I know which platforms are best and I can teach them how to create visibility, get engagement and website traffic.


Kristie: Tell me a story of something exciting that you learned from Social Blast that made a difference for your business.

Dana: Not one thing, but overall I’m now feeling more comfortable experimenting with different scenarios in social media – videos, Facebook Live, checking out Instagram, posts, shares, joining groups, posting graphics versus just text.

I always learn something new on every call.


Kristie: What is the most measurable result you have seen since you joined Social Blast?

Dana: I now have a social media strategy. I spend more time in engagement either posting or commenting.

My Facebook page was hacked in the beginning of the year and my goal was for 1000 likes by the end of the year. I reached 900+ and was happy with that and implementing many of the tools and strategies Susan covered in the Social Blast group program.


Kristie: Anything else you’d like to share?

Dana: I have recommended this program to several of my clients who need more professional advice on social media – it’s affordable and doesn’t take them into overwhelm.

You can always go back to a recording to review something which is a great feature.


Kristie: Thanks so much Dana! We’re excited about the results you got in the Social Blast program and appreciate you sharing about your experience.

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Why ‘Acting As If’ Is Not Working For Your Business Abundance

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We often hear that if you ‘Act As If’ you have something already you will attract it to you. Every wonder why this works for some people to achieve business abundance and not others?

What does ‘Act As If’ mean?  It means that if you want something, you must act as if you already have it in order to get it.

For example if you want to have an abundant business you must act as if you already have that. If you want to have ideal clients you must act as if you already have them.

Act as if you already have what you want!It might not be working for you for a few reasons:

  1. If you are someone who thinks about what you want but haven’t taken the time to get really clear on what it is you want.

    The Law of Attraction cannot give you what you want if you don’t know what it is you want.

  2. If you flip-flop back and forth about believing what you want is possible, the amount of doubt you have will directly effects how much you manifest what you want.

    This self-doubt is filled with negative emotions and vibrations.

You need to have a strong clear desire for what you really want AND you need to
remove as much doubt as possible to manifest what you want!

For some people they may feel like a ‘fraud’ trying to be someone they are not. If you feel that way then you need to have a mindset shift because that attitude will never having you ‘act as if’ you had what you wanted.

You can tell yourself that you are ‘in the process of creating the perfect business for yourself with ideal clients’.

You have to feel good about what you are saying or doing to achieve what you want. Without feeling good about yourself you will never manifest something better for yourself.

Here are a few tips to help you get some clarity and remove some of the doubt that you can ‘Act As If’ and manifest your desires:

  • Check out other business entrepreneurs who already have what you want. How do they act? What do they look like? How do they dress? Who do they hang out with?  Start modeling them in a way that feels good to you.

  • Create a ‘Clarity through Contrast‘ worksheet where you make a list of what you don’t want and then a list of what your business will look like AFTER you have what you want.

  • If you like to see a visual, then do a ‘Vision Board‘ with the focus on how you will feel when you have what you want.

  • Write out your story about what will happen when you manifest your desire. Start each sentence with ‘Wouldn’t It Be Nice If…‘ and then write like crazy for at least 60 seconds… you can come back to this at any time.

  • Take some ‘meditation – manifesting time‘ every day so that you start to feel what is possible.

  • Always put what you want out there and let the Law of Attraction bring it to you and remember to be OPEN and say that this would be good OR MORE!

  • If affirmations work for you – great keep using them – but if not, try saying this “I am in the process of attracting my ideal _____” (you fill in the blank).

Start paying attention to the evidence of manifesting coming your way once you start to ‘Act As If’. Go BEYOND what your goal is!

Think even BIGGER THOUGHTS once you see the evidence and remember always to express gratitude for what you are attracting.

About the Author, Dana J. Smithers

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Dana J. Smithers is on a mission to inspire and empower women entrepreneurs around the world. At 50 she left a high-paying corporate job and over the years launched 3 businesses earning a 6-figure income.

As a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer she you how to use LOA tools to build a business by working on your limiting beliefs. As a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide she helps you discover what makes you feel on purpose and fulfilled. As an Emotion Code practitioner Dana knows how to release your trapped negative emotions that have built up over the years and are now holding you back from moving forward. She invites you to sign up for her enewsletter for tips, insights and inspiration and her FREE ebook 'The POWER of your WORDS' at Empowered Women in Business. She looks forward to making a real connection with you on www.FB.com/coachdanasmithers. Her NEW Law of Attraction Gratitude Journal is available on www.amazon.com.

How to Make Affirmations Work – Law of Attraction Style

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Most entrepreneurs use affirmations at some point in their life whether it is to manifest something in their personal or their business life.

You may be a huge believer in affirmations and find that they work beautifully for you and if they do I suggest you keep doing what you are doing.

But, if you find that your affirmations do not seem to be working for you and you are discouraged even thinking about them keep reading to find out what changes you can make so they do work for you – Law of Attraction style.

Let’s take a look at some attributes and definitions of an Affirmation.

  • To affirm is to ‘make firm’ and to say something positive
  • They bring wishes, prayers, goals and dreams from imagination into reality
  • Affirmations are written in the present tense
  • They are declarations or statements where you assert what you want
  • Affirmations can be used to change your thinking and change your life
  • You can anchor an affirmation with ‘for the highest good of all concerned’

Affirmations are also like ‘orders’ that you are submitting to the Universe in the same way that when you  use the Law of Attraction’s  3 Step Deliberate Attraction ‘Clarity Through Contrast’ exercise you get very clear on what it is you want to attract.

Once you have your Clarity List you ‘Allow’ the Law of Attraction to fill that order for you.

What is most critical to you manifesting using the Law of Attraction is the ‘believability factor‘ in what you say you want to manifest. And so it is with your Affirmations.

Affirmations must be BELIEVABLE and FEEL GOOD to you when you create them.

For example if write an affirmation stating

“I am making $20,000 per month from my business”

and you are telling yourself “I really don’t think I can do that” your negative self-talk takes over and you just attract more negative vibrations.

You need to do some ‘negative-mindset shifting’ to positive self-talk. You are in the mindset that ‘seeing is believing’ and I’m asking you to change it to ‘believing is seeing’!

So how do you do that?

If you are not used to doing affirmations or they are not working for you, then try using this:

3 Step Affirmation Process

This will work in any area of your life whether you want better health, better relationships, a new car, a new house, more business clients, more friends, better finances, etc. etc.

Step 1 – GET CLARITY – you want to be very clear on what it is you want to attract with your affirmation.

What changes do you want to make in your life?

You can start this process by creating vision boards, take photos on your smart phone, read about what you want, put photos in a vision book, any number of things that helps you visualize what it is you want i.e. the change you want to see.  

Positive ThinkingStep 2 – REMOVE DOUBT – you must believe that what you want to have is possible to have and you can do that with your positive thinking.

‘Believing is seeing’ so open your eyes to where you are actually seeing more of what it is you want.

Look for the evidence of what it is you want – where is this already happening in the world. Your intention is to make that happen to you!

Without believing that what you are affirming is possible or true for you, your affirmations will never materialize.

The subconscious does not know the difference between what is real and what you are imagining. The law of attraction doesn’t know the difference either because its job is simply to match your feelings or vibrations.

So when you are thinking about your affirmation, writing it out, just looking at it or daydreaming about what you want to manifest you must attach a lot of positive thoughts (energy) to what you desire to manifest.

Step 3 – ALLOW IT TO MANIFEST – every time you get any ‘closeness to what you want’ be sure to acknowledge that as evidence that your affirmation is working.

Affirmations do not always work in the time frame that you have decided you would like them to but they do work if you are persistent and consistent with your conviction that you can have what you are affirming you want.

The Universe may just be lining up something far better that what you imagined you wanted so be patient!

Many affirmation experts believe that by starting each sentence with “I AM” that there is a strong creative force at work here. I will leave that for you to decide but I will guarantee that IF you start with your sentence with…

I am in the process of…

Your affirmations will work much better for you. You are planting the seeds of possibilities here with a positive vibration.

Some of your affirmations may look like this:

  • I am in the process of receiving abundance now in expected and unexpected ways
  • I am in the process of increasing my confidence as I grow my business
  • I am in the process of creating meaningful and profitable relationships with my ideal clients
  • I am in the process of earning the income I need to buy that brand new Jaguar
  • I am in the process of becoming healthier every day
  • I am in the process of making a meaningful contribution to the world through my work
  • I am worthy of love, abundance, happiness and fulfillment

When you learn how to use Law of Attraction style affirmations you must first BELIEVE it is possible by removing all doubt and fear. You will attract more of what you want in ways you never expected!

About the Author, Dana J. Smithers

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Dana J. Smithers is on a mission to inspire and empower women entrepreneurs around the world. At 50 she left a high-paying corporate job and over the years launched 3 businesses earning a 6-figure income.

As a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer she you how to use LOA tools to build a business by working on your limiting beliefs. As a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide she helps you discover what makes you feel on purpose and fulfilled. As an Emotion Code practitioner Dana knows how to release your trapped negative emotions that have built up over the years and are now holding you back from moving forward. She invites you to sign up for her enewsletter for tips, insights and inspiration and her FREE ebook 'The POWER of your WORDS' at Empowered Women in Business. She looks forward to making a real connection with you on www.FB.com/coachdanasmithers. Her NEW Law of Attraction Gratitude Journal is available on www.amazon.com.