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3 Telltale Signs You’re Procrastinating and How to Overcome this Problem

3 Telltale Signs You’re Procrastinating and How to Stop

I don’t know about you, but I can find myself in a tight spot once in while – all because I procrastinated about something I knew I needed to do.

And then of course, I am frustrated with myself because now I need to drop everything else I’d rather be doing and I’m stressed and not happy at all.

Again!

In this article I will help you understand how to recognize procrastination when it comes up for you and learn how to reach your goals.

Is it really procrastination… or are you making the right decision because something else is more important right now? If it is really procrastination these strategies will help you recognize the early warning signs and give you strategies that will work for you so that you stop playing small and live your life to the fullest.

The end of the year is quickly ending so this is a perfect time to reflect over the year and see what you had planned to accomplish compared to what you did accomplish. Think back to when you planned out your goals.

Remember how excited and dedicated you were? And then life happens and the day-to-day gets in the way and before you know it another day has gone by without reaching your goals.

When asked recently in an Internet survey the top five reasons people gave for procrastination was: fear of failing (19%), lack of motivation (13%), lack of focus (12%), feeling overwhelmed (10%) and the task was unpleasant (9%.)

1st Sign You are Procrastinating

You indulge in distractions such as watching TV, surfing the web, social media, playing video games, taking naps, reading books, or hanging out with friends instead of working on your goals.

2nd Sign You are Procrastinating

You make excuses for not doing something you know you should be doing such as…

  • It’s been a rough week or
  • I need more time / money / resources / sleep or
  • I have too many other things going on right now – I just can’t fit this in or
  • I’m just not feeling it right now
  • Yada, yada, yada…

3rd Sign You are Procrastinating

Feelings of despair that can paralyze you from taking positive action towards your goals. This often sounds like…

  • Why is my life so unfair?
  • Why am I always the one that must do everything?
  • Why are things always so difficult?
  • Why can’t I be more organized?

If you can see yourself in any of these warning signs, then you are definitely procrastinating in a detrimental way.

Here are ten strategies that will help you overcome this problem once and for all:

  1. Vocabulary is important so choose your words wisely. Positive words yield positive results; negative self-talk gets more of what you don’t want.
  2. Reverse your calendar and start with the deadline and work backwards so you space out the work in smaller steps. Make sure the interim deadlines are realistic and allow space for unforeseen things to come up without jeopardizing the project.
  3. Fill your calendar so that you reduce the time you think you have available to work on the important tasks. Look at elapsed time versus effort time.
     
    For instance, it might take you 3 hours to complete a project step but you won’t have a 3-hour block of time all at once. So, give yourself a deadline of completing that task over 3 days so that you can find 3 hours of time spread over the 3-day period.
     
    Include recreational and family activities, too, so that the time you can dedicate to the project is realistic and achievable.
  4. Work in a state of flow because we’re most productive when fully engaged. Distractions, emotions and other concerns undermine our ability to focus. Consider spending 2-minutes in meditation to empty your mind and visualize yourself celebrating completing the task.
  5. Fully embrace your goals so don’t spend time working on things you don’t care about if you have any choice in the matter. There are some things we all must do regardless of how much we dislike them – so do those things first and get them out of the way so that you can enjoy the rest of your day doing what you really want to do.
  6. Look at the tiny steps if the big picture is overwhelming. Break each big step into smaller steps and before you realize it, the project is finished. And share the load by delegating as much as you can to someone who loves doing those types of things.
  7. Make your own rewards and treat yourself once a specific task is completed. Relish how good it feels to have that step completed and then do something fun before moving to the next step.
  8. Reframe its importance even if it’s not important to you. Remind yourself of how important it is to someone you care about or think about how good you will feel when this project is completed.
     
    I do that when it’s time to prepare my annual taxes because it is the one thing I dislike more than anything – but once it’s handed off to the CPA I feel wonderful knowing I won’t have to do it again for another year!
  9. Sleep, eat healthy & exercise because unless you feel good physically and mentally it will be almost impossible to focus on completing the task at hand.
  10. Uncover start and end points because once something has a beginning and an end, it’s a whole lot easier to start filling in the middle. That’s a lesson I learned from my home economics teacher in grade school when she made us measure twice and cut once.
     
    When I was learning to sew, I had to take out each piece of the pattern and lay it out on the fabric so I knew exactly which pieces I needed before I was ever able to start cutting. Of course, I wanted to jump right in and make a dress, but I’m so glad she enforced me to do it right the first time!

So now that you understand why you might be procrastinating, how to tell when it’s happening and some methods to develop some winning strategies it’s a perfect time to start planning for the new year.

About the Author, Katherine Hartvickson

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Katherine Hartvickson is the founder and president of Hartvickson & Associates, Inc. dba Quantum Ascendance. She is an experienced business consultant and success coach. Since leaving the corporate world in 2009, her clients include business owners and other seriously committed professionals and entrepreneurs who want to gain the confidence and skills to break through the barriers of success and achieve their ideal life.

What separates her service from others is her experience in leading large teams and developing top performers in corporate environments and because of this, clients achieve individual & financial rewards and the recognition they earned without sacrificing their personal life. If you are interested in knowing more, she can be reached at www.QuantumAscendance.com.


You Have The Keys to Your Abundance – Here’s How

Abundance is actually a feeling and not a thing although ‘things’ can definitely make you feel abundant.

Since the Law of Attraction is all about vibrations and they are either positive or negative, it makes sense to look for situations, people, circumstances or things that make you feel positive.

And, a vibration is simply energy and everything is energy whether it has the appearance of a solid form or not. You have the power to control your energy and to chose whether the energy you are giving off and attracting, is positive or negative.

The Law of Attraction will do its job by bringing you more of the same!

Two Mindsets Needed to Attract Abundance

As an entrepreneur you’ve heard it said many times that your ‘mindset’ is the key to creating a life you want. It’s important that you look at your mindset, right now, exactly where you are in life.

The mindset that you had last year or a few years ago is not the mindset you have right now. Your vibration has changed.

You might want to do a check-in with your mindset and see where you are at right now, present day. It will most likely fall into one of these categories:

  • Abundance Mindset – you are totally open to all the unlimited possibilities in your life right now and you feel abundance all around you. You feel positive about your business and personal life and you love what you have created.
  • Stagnation Mindset – you may or may not be in your comfort zone here, but you are just coasting along and most likely not feeling very abundant. You might think it’s okay to feel this way – the only way you will know is if you have the desire to be more abundant. It’s the feeling that gives you your answer.
  • Lack Mindset – you definitely have a lot of negative emotions and you may in fact have accidents, lose clients/customers, see your sales dwindling and feel no abundance at all. This is because all the negative emotions are blocking out any light from the positive vibes you want to feel.

The most important thing for you to do is to acknowledge where you are at now and if you FEEL you need to change something you can do that.

Here are two important ways for you to unlock your mindset from receiving the abundance you desire:

  1. Have An Open Heart To Receive

  2. If you are what’s called a ‘heart-centred entrepreneur’ you are most likely attracting people, circumstances or situations who are also heart-centred. Now it is time for you to open your heart to receive the gifts from others. It means acknowledging all the abundance that is coming your way regardless of what it looks like. The key to attracting more abundance is having an open heart so that you can receive whatever it is you need to allow you to feel more abundant.

  3. Have An Open Mind to Receive

    Whatever you attract ‘celebrate the closeness’ of the match. Most people start to feel negative when they haven’t attracted abundance in the manner that they expect. If this happens to you – hang in there- the Universe is aligning up everything you need to do, know or have to make you feel more abundant. It’s a mindset that you want to foster.  Always be ‘open’ to receiving and if it’s really not what you wanted then just say ‘Next’ and keep the vibe positive.

Receptivity Comes From Possibilities

Receptivity comes from the possibilities all around you that you let in to both your head and your heart.

Your brain and your heart actually send messages back and forth and when they are in alignment that is when the manifesting begins.

The key to unlocking the message is for you to get clarity on what you want, ask for it and then be totally receptive to what comes your way.

Become more of an observer than a doer as the abundance you want starts to fill you up with positive thoughts, people, circumstances and situations. And definitely money is great too!

And if you need help releasing your negative trapped emotions that are blocking you from receiving abundance consider having an Emotion Code session with me!

About the Author, Dana J. Smithers

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Dana J. Smithers is on a mission to inspire and empower women entrepreneurs around the world. At 50 she left a high-paying corporate job and over the years launched 3 businesses earning a 6-figure income.

As a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer she you how to use LOA tools to build a business by working on your limiting beliefs. As a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide she helps you discover what makes you feel on purpose and fulfilled. As an Emotion Code practitioner Dana knows how to release your trapped negative emotions that have built up over the years and are now holding you back from moving forward. She invites you to sign up for her enewsletter for tips, insights and inspiration and her FREE ebook 'The POWER of your WORDS' at Empowered Women in Business. She looks forward to making a real connection with you on www.FB.com/coachdanasmithers. Her NEW Law of Attraction Gratitude Journal is available on www.amazon.com.

3 Traits of Effective Business Leadership

3 Traits of Effective Business Leadership

What to Watch for When You Have a Need for Guidance

To receive guidance is necessary as part of our growth as business entrepreneurs and leaders. And interestingly wherever we look, someone is always available to assist us.

Fortunately, what we do not know, someone else does.

Whether you are wanting to position yourself as an effective business leader or are seeking out someone to provide you with proper guidance, here are 3 considerations to keep in mind.

  1. Follow the Seven Habits

    The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen Covey suggests the following to keep us on track:

    1. Be proactive
    2. You are the programmer of your life, grow and stay humble.
    3. Keep personal integrity- what you say and what you do must match
    4. Think win-win. Value and respect all, employ character based codes for collaboration
    5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood- using empathy, care and open mindedness in interactions
    6. Combine strengths and operate as teams
    7. Employ Continuous improvement- for mental, spiritual and emotional health and balance.
    8.  

  2. Be Honest

    Interestingly I have been a leader all my life and yet had been unconscious of many traits within me that did not allow me to tap into the above list consistently.
     
    I had no idea that my ego often stood in my way. This same ego would give me the impression that I was thinking “win-win” when in fact it was being calculative and self serving.
     
    The ego can be very tricky.  I might have thought that I was open- minded in my interactions yet every ego filters to evaluate based on personal and collective beliefs that can be very limiting and disempowering, and I have had my share to transform in the last nine years.
     
    The ego often unconsciously leads us into power struggles that can become very sticky. If we don’t experience them in our work-life, we certainly end up facing them in our home lives, so they catch up with us eventually! lol
     
    Despite running corporations with 3000 people I had no idea that my ego was censoring EVERYTHING based on its own judgments and programing, and that the reactive knee-jerk actions from the ego had nothing to do with the true self that resides within us.
     
    If I was not operating from my true self- it goes without saying that many of my actions did not fit the seven habits listed by Covey.

  3. Embody Conscious Leadership

    What I have come to learn during the last nine years is that when we are under the direction of a conscious leader we are always being lifted to be the very best we can be, and conscious leaders actually walk their own talk.
     
    They embody the seven attributes listed above effortlessly. This is the power of consciousness- effortless living where the person has disassociated from the antics of the ego.
     
    This consciousness is accessible to all of us by first learning more about ourselves. We have to be willing to stalk all our reactions to understand them and their history within our psyche.
     
    Then we have to move beyond understanding to visit the lessons in our history so that we can be liberated. It all happens systematically so that we truly find our voice to be a contributor in the world.
     
    As we become liberated we begin to embody and live from this pale of heightened consciousness… and that leads to us becoming the effective leaders we wish to be.
     
    Do not get me wrong, we are always learning and growing. There is always more…

The Invitation

My invitation is to ask you to stop and pause before you decide on who should guide you next in your business or home life.

Our world is changing fast. The old paradigms are not working.

Old patriarchal ways of leading are not enough. People who discuss mind-based ideas are not serving anyone- they are simply keeping people stuck in yesteryear.

The new world has not yet unfolded… and many emerging leaders are seeking to find their voice to influence this new world.

Look to see if the person who influences you has actively done the inner work to see who they are.

Has this work been done at the level of their mind, or is it deeper, and you can see and feel their groundedness? Can you feel their courage? Can you feel their knowingness? And can their compassion be trusted?

Look for a conscious leader

This is the only way you will truly benefit yourself and others around you. A conscious leader will walk their talk. A conscious leader will offer a helping hand knowing that it is through your growth in self awareness that your leadership skills will improve.

About the Author, Kindi Gill ACA

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Are you extremely responsible but tired and wish someone could now nurture YOUR needs? Is your family life in need of a boost and ready to be revitalized into unity? Is there room for improvement in your relationships at home so that your work-life is better supported? If you are struggling with adversity, contact Kindi Gill for a complimentary 30 minute consultation.

Kindi is a CEO, Revitalization Consultant, Inward Leadership Mentor and Keynote Speaker. She has 30 plus years of experience in leadership, is trained as a Chartered Accountant and is a member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers. Kindi is also one of 11 people trained as a facilitator of the Self Healing Dalian Method, an evolutionary tool that bypasses the mind, created by a modern day mystic, Mada Eliza Dalian who revolutionized Kindi's own life back into wholeness.

Call her at 778-558-5110 for help in getting your life and vibration back on track to achieve its natural potential, so that your gifts can shine, and the rain can eventually stop.


5 Useful Decision-Making Steps to Buying Your Next Business Program Sold at an Event

5 Useful Decision-Making Steps to Buying Your Next Business Program Sold at an Event

How to Avoid Making Impulsive Purchases from Success-Promising Gurus

I recently attended a 3-day business conference in Vancouver. There were about 500 people in attendance, all business owners and entrepreneurs who where there to network, learn and be inspired. You can also call Lee Rosen Miami for business consulting.

All in all, it was a great event that resulted in my meeting new people and gaining valuable insights that I brought home with me to infuse into my business.

The conference boasted nine high-profile speakers including thought leaders like Jack Canfield, Dr. John Gray and James Malinchak. Their talks were entertaining, insightful, informative and motivating.

They certainly learned the craft of being an influential presence on the stage well.

But make no mistake, each of these speakers were there with the sole purpose of promoting their wares and influencing the audience to purchase their key strategies, programs and courses that promised business success.

And they succeeded.

The volume of people that ran to the back of the room to grab their limited-time, extraordinary low-cost offering before it was sold out was mind boggling.

As a member of that audience, I was fascinated by what I was witnessing. Perhaps it was my state of mind or the confidence I already felt in my capabilities of achieving further business success, but I was not at all tempted to be a part of the crowd to run to the back of the room and grab a purchase.

I looked around and saw men and women who were involved in a variety of different businesses and industries. Many of whom where desperate to get that SECRET FORMULA that would transform their struggles into riches.

And the speakers on the stage knew this and played right into their hands.

Throughout the 3 days, the audience was presented with lots of solutions, advanced systems and formulas on how to achieve success in their business. But the problem is, not all proposed solutions were ideal for everyone.

But what is a business owner and entrepreneur to do?

They are attending such events to help them with their business so are naturally attracted to the offers made up on the stage.

To help you avoid making irrational and emotionally-based decisions when faced with the pressure of live event and even free webinar offers I have put together 5 steps on what to think about first before jumping in with the crowd and grabbing your purchase:

  1. Think things through first.

    Ask yourself if this opportunity is truly going to get you a return on your investment if you make the purchase. What are you willing to commit to in order to get the most out of that investment?

    The key here is to understanding success is not just going to happen by signing up but actually doing the work. Are you realistically willing to do the work? Are you going to be 100% committed to this or will you get home, set it aside, and promise to get to it when you get a chance?

    None of these programs will get you the results these presenters are talking about if you’re not committed enough to follow through on every single step provided.

  2. Be objectively critical.

    When these speakers are on the stage, they are sharing their best success stories possible – the cream of the crop. Often this reflects only a minor percentage of those who have taken the program.

    Be objective. And don’t make emotionally-based decisions that compel you run to the back of the room and purchase. This is exactly what they are counting on.

  3. Decide if your business can truly benefit from what you will learn.

    Just because they are telling you this on stage doesn’t mean it’s a perfect fit for you, your business model, and your goals.

    As an example, if you have the gift of service and support, then more than likely you will not do well learning to be a speaker on stage despite that presenter saying “anyone can do this using my system and processes”.

    If you have the gift of, say, music, then being a published author is probably not something you should pursue despite being provided with a “fool-proof, iron-clad method that will get you on the Amazon best seller list”.

    Ask yourself if what this presenter is offering is exactly what you need to learn in order to reach your business goals or is there something better suited for you available elsewhere? Do you really need to learn all of this yourself or is hiring someone who is an expert in that area a better decision that will help reach your goals quicker without having to become an expert in that field first?

  4. Recognize the emotional manipulation that’s happening.

    We see this all the time. Whether you’re attending conferences or online webinars there’s always a “limited time offer” that makes it irresistible to pass up.

    Don’t let these “one-time-only” offers lead you into thinking this is the only chance you’ll ever get to take advantage of what’s being offered. It simply isn’t true. It’s a sales tactic that preys on people who make emotional decisions and don’t want to be left out or miss out on an incredible opportunity.

    These programs will all still be offered after the hype ends. Even if that means paying $50 more, so be it. Give yourself time to objectively work through the pros and cons and decide whether it’s worth your investment or not.

    Don’t let your emotions be triggered by the slick sales speech or written sales copy on a page.

  5. Do your research.

    This may not necessarily be the case for headliner speakers we see on the stage, but sadly, there are a lot of very smooth-talking “gurus” out there who are nothing but smoke and mirrors. They offer a lot of hype but little substance.

    Do your pocketbook a favour; before investing in any kind of program or product, research the person selling it first. Do a Google search and see if any bad reviews come up. Ask people in your social media groups if they’ve had any experience with that person and what were the results.

    Your goal is to make an informed decision, not an emotional one based on the promises of the sales copy. And if you do encounter negative reviews – listen to your gut. So many times wrong decisions are still made because, as human beings, we’re highly influenced by emotions and we can easily justify our actions based on those promises despite finding evidence to the contrary.

After reading this, you might think I’m against purchasing programs and courses all together but that’s not the case at all. I’m not saying not to invest in business growth strategies, but instead to make informed, objective decisions on which investments to make in the first place.

The sad fact is that marketing can be a very manipulative process that is meant to create fear- and lack-based, emotional responses. The people we see on stage, as well as those that do highly visible free webinars, are masters at pulling these emotional triggers.

Simply be aware of that manipulation and follow the guide I outlined above to help you decide whether or not your business can truly benefit from that investment you’re being asked to make.

Do you have any stories of acting on impulse and regretting the purchase later?

To your ongoing success,
Susan Friesen

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About the Author, Susan Friesen

Susan Friesen offering 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum ResultsSusan Friesen, founder of the award-winning web development and digital marketing firm eVision Media, is a Web Specialist, Business & Marketing Consultant, and Social Media Advisor. She works with entrepreneurs who struggle with having the lack of knowledge, skill and support needed to create their online business presence.

As a result of working with Susan and her team, clients feel confident and relieved knowing their online marketing is in trustworthy and caring hands so they can focus on building their business with peace of mind at having a perfect support system in place to guide them every step of the way.

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Is Jealousy the Biggest Culprit in Thwarting Your Business Growth?

Why Gratitude is One of the Biggest Keys to Success

Jealously the Biggest Culprit in Thwarting Your Business Growth

No magic pill, wand or formula was applied in creating this success story.

While Social Media can have many benefits to business growth, there’s an underlying, negative-based energy many people experience that could very well be contributing to the lack of their business growth.

And that energy is jealousy…

For us on the West Coast of Canada, we only get to enjoy a few months of summer warmth and sun each year. This is the time we make plans to get out and enjoy the weather as much as possible.

So it stands to reason many of the posts shared on Social Media are fun-related. After all, who wants to share posts about the hours they spend behind their computer working 15 hours a day?

Relaxing at Kingfisher SpaWhile away on holidays recently, it occurred to me there may be some who would look upon my holiday-infused Facebook posts thinking this is my life – doing nothing but having fun and going on holidays.

And when I thought about it, I’ve given them no reason to think otherwise. If a new Facebook business-owner “friend” only saw holiday-related posts, then that’s the impression they would have of me – I never seem to work!

For those that know me, this assumption is far from the truth but nonetheless, for those that don’t, I can see how they would come to that conclusion.

And the interesting thing is, that kind of conclusion has a far-reaching result that could very well be affecting their business success.

That’s because instead of being happy for me, they are feeling a twinge of jealousy.

Jealous they can’t take holidays…
Jealous they can’t go for spa treatments…
Jealous they can’t relax poolside at a resort…

And so on.

Jealousy is a very insidious thing that can sneak up and snare the most unsuspecting person.

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How many times have you looked at someone’s success or witnessed all of the wonderful travels they’ve been on and secretly wished it were you instead of them?

When this happens we nosedive into a lack and scarcity mindset. Our ego kicks into high gear and we get into competition mode. Comparing what WE DON’T have to what THEY DO have.

And when that happens, we’re not in an expansive, abundant state of mind. Instead, we’re stifling all energies needed for growth, which can ultimately result in a lack of success.

I did it too. I would see people like Mari Smith travel the world doing keynote speeches or private consulting gigs and think how lucky she is to live such a magical life!

But then I realized magic has absolutely nothing to do with it!

When we see people like Mari, or me for that matter, reaping the rewards of our labour, we fail to realize the labour part of that equation.

The ability to take time off, travel, go to spa appointments or relax at resorts is a product of hard work. It didn’t all happen magically, or effortlessly for that matter.

What does gratitude have to do with success?

I’ve talked before about my keys to success and aside from working long hours, having a team and building a business wisely, the biggest key to my success is gratitude.

I’m thankful every single day even if a client is upset with me.  Gratitude can still be found in the lessons learned to avoid that incident from happening again.

I’m thankful for the hard-working, integral employee giving their notice.  Gratitude can still be found because I was able to have them on my team as long as I did and look forward to how that person’s replacement will make a positive impact on my business.

I’m thankful for the deadbeat, non-paying client.  Gratitude can still be found knowing what kind of client to turn down in the future, seeing the signs ahead of time they will be a challenge to collect from.

This is what I do every day where it’s well documented in my gratitude journal I write in every night.

Success is what you want it to be. You are in control.

Despite the one-sided impression Social Media provides, there is no magic program, product or formula that will create success for you.

But with having an attitude of gratitude, a strong commitment to success and not letting jealously prevent you from thinking you can have that too, you can be successful.

I’ll let you in on a little secret…. many don’t know that not long ago Daniel and I were quite destitute. We were on the verge of losing our home and had a $24,000 credit card debt (due to identity theft but that’s another story). So I know what it feels like to be on the other side of the pasture thinking everything was so green over there and completely unattainable.

However, what got us through to the other side is we never gave in to victimhood. We believed things will get better, focused on being grateful for what we had, and worked towards what we did want.

Law of attraction expert Dana Smithers has a great solution to when things are not going perfect and that’s to ask yourself, “what do I really want?” (Watch this quick video where she explains how this works.)

So the next time you feel a pang of jealousy when you see someone post about their wonderful cruise, their world-wide adventure or their spa treatment, remember there was no magic involved in that person’s success.

Only hard work, commitment and a whole lot of gratitude for hills and valleys that was overcome along the way to that success.

Take a moment now and no matter how shitty of a day you’re having, what can you be grateful for? Ask yourself what is it that you really want? Share below, let’s all celebrate with you.

Are you willing to make a commitment to celebrate everyone’s success? Take responsibility for your actions and do what it takes so you can reap similar rewards of success?

Don’t let jealousy be the biggest culprit in the lack of your business growth. Show it who’s boss instead!

To your ongoing success,
Susan Friesen

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Susan Friesen offering 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum ResultsSusan Friesen, founder of the award-winning web development and digital marketing firm eVision Media, is a Web Specialist, Business & Marketing Consultant, and Social Media Advisor. She works with entrepreneurs who struggle with having the lack of knowledge, skill and support needed to create their online business presence.

As a result of working with Susan and her team, clients feel confident and relieved knowing their online marketing is in trustworthy and caring hands so they can focus on building their business with peace of mind at having a perfect support system in place to guide them every step of the way.

Visit www.ultimatewebsiteguide.ca and download your FREE "Ultimate Guide to Improving Your Website's Profitability - 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum Results".

How Is Your ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ Working For You?

Gratitude

Why Expressing Gratitude Is Key to Your Success

The Law of Attraction is all about vibrations and its job description is to ‘match vibrations’. So, it stands to reason if you are grumbling about this and that in your life then… you will attract more things to grumble about.

On the other hand, if you are always expressing thanks and appreciation, your feeling positive will continue to attract the things that allow you to feel good. Your expression of gratitude might be towards people, circumstances, situations or things.

Your ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ Level

If you really want to know how well your own ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ is working for you look at your life.

How are your relationships with loved ones?
What state are your finances in?
Business always growing with fabulous clients who can’t get enough of you?
Is your health good you’re always 100% present and engaged with your clients?

Vibrational energies, i.e. frequency levels of energy, have been scientifically measured on a scale of 0 – 1000. ‘Gratitude’ resides just above ‘Joy’. Whatever emotion or vibration you are giving off it will be matched by the law of attraction giving you more of the same emotion.

The person most well known for measuring frequency levels of different emotions is Dr. David Hawkins. This is his ‘Map of Consciousness’ from his book ‘Power vs Force’ which indicates where certain emotions reside on a scale from 0 – 1000. Enlightened people like the Dali Lama would resonate closer to the 1000 frequency.

Power vs Force Chart

If you are resonating below 200 then you are giving off negative vibrations.

Any feelings you have of pride (false pride), anger, desire, fear, grief, apathy, guilt or shame keep you locked in a whirlpool of negative emotions. You pay an emotional price for hanging on to these emotions and not letting them go or be cleared from you body.

Eventually these negative emotions will show up as dis-ease in your body somewhere. Your mind and body are going to be their healthiest and happiest when your emotions rise above the 200 level.

Where Does ‘Gratitude’ Reside on Dr. Hawkins Chart?

According to one article* that stood out in my research:

“Gratitude resides just above Joy. In order to feel grateful, you need to feel contentment which is a joyful state of being. Contentment is regarded by Dalai Lama as the key ingredient for inner happiness. Gratitude is one of the main ingredients for happiness.

Gratitude includes appreciation. You can bring the energy of gratitude in your body by writing a list of things that you are grateful for, that you appreciate for every aspect of your life, especially for the bad ones (the parts that feel heavy, with problems and lacks).

Higher emotions, higher thoughts, therefore, higher vibrations (thoughts are vibrations as Abraham Hick told us) are lighter. The truth is light. Lower emotions, lower thoughts, therefore, lower vibrations are heavy. Lies are heavy.”

Why Would You Express Gratitude For Bad Things In Your Life?

The reason you want to express Gratitude for everything that comes into your life is because there is always something positive to learn from any situation – good or bad. And, from the Law of Attraction perspective focus on the ‘bad’ briefly so that you are not wallowing in your own misery or poor-me state for very long.

Find a different way to look at the situation that makes you feel more positive. It may not come right away but give it time and then raise your lower vibration to that higher state of Gratitude. You’ll feel better for making that choice!

And if you need help releasing your negative trapped emotions consider having an Emotion Code session with me!

* www.CentreofLightTulsa.org

About the Author, Dana J. Smithers

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Dana J. Smithers is on a mission to inspire and empower women entrepreneurs around the world. At 50 she left a high-paying corporate job and over the years launched 3 businesses earning a 6-figure income.

As a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer she you how to use LOA tools to build a business by working on your limiting beliefs. As a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide she helps you discover what makes you feel on purpose and fulfilled. As an Emotion Code practitioner Dana knows how to release your trapped negative emotions that have built up over the years and are now holding you back from moving forward. She invites you to sign up for her enewsletter for tips, insights and inspiration and her FREE ebook 'The POWER of your WORDS' at Empowered Women in Business. She looks forward to making a real connection with you on www.FB.com/coachdanasmithers. Her NEW Law of Attraction Gratitude Journal is available on www.amazon.com.

Top 10 Tips to Building a Balanced Business

Top 10 Tips to Building a Balanced Business

I started my business to create more work/life balance.

Honest. Ok. You can stop laughing now…. Anytime!

If you are still laughing at the naiveté of my younger self, then you must be in business for yourself as well.

You know all too well about the many long hours you put in; the constant drain on your time and your bank account; and the passion that comes from working day and night on either a) something that you love or b) something that you are now so far into that you can see no way out.

What if I told you, you could build a business that was balanced from the get-go?

Well, I guess that involves understanding what it means to be “in balance” in your business.

Most people assume the definition of work/life balance involves spending less time at work and more time doing something other than work that you love.

A quick online search brought up these definitions, all rooted in a similar thought:

“Work-life balance is a concept including proper prioritizing between “work” (career and ambition) and “lifestyle” (health, pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development/meditation). This is related to the idea of “lifestyle choice.” – Wikipedia

“Work-life balance is knowing what feeds your energy.” – Jacki Zehner, CEO of Women Moving Millions

“Work-life balance is about getting more sleep.” – Amy Errett, cofounder of Madison Reed

“My secret to having work-life balance is to schedule in my fun.” – Monif Clarke, CEO of Monif C. Plus Sizes

And…

“Work-life balance means making decisions around where, who and what you’re going to sacrifice, because you can’t do it all,” – Nike Taranto, Cofounder of Plated.com

I also turned to Richard Branson for his tips on achieving a healthy work/life balance. That man seems to be always having a good time, and with his success, I figured he must have some “secrets” up his sleeve.

Here are his:

  1. Rise Early
  2. Limit Screen Time
  3. Write lists
  4. Make time for sports
  5. Make time for loved ones
  6. Embrace something new (or do something new every day)

I like how Branson just ASSUMES you are going to love what you do every day. It didn’t even make his list!

So what I’m hearing from the above is work-life balance involves prioritizing; doing things you enjoy; having fun; and sacrificing some things.

I agree with all those statements – except for the word sacrifice.

I believe in choosing what’s most important and prioritizing what will make you the MOST happy, fulfilled and successful in your business and in your life.

Here is my definition of work/life balance:

“You are “in balance” when you are happy.”

Yikes, now that’s a new can of worms to open, not only am I asking you what it means to be balanced, now I’m also asking you what it means to be happy too?

So, let’s translate that to starting up a business that you love to work in.

What do you need to be happy (and consequently balanced) in your business?

Here are my top 10 tips to being balanced and happy in your business:

  • Start a business doing something you love
  • Hire out the pieces you don’t love doing yourself.
  • Honour your need for rest when you need it
  • Cultivate the important relationships in your life so you don’t replace all of them with work
  • Run your business from somewhere you love being, day in and day out
  • Set up your business so you, as a person, thrive in it
  • Decide up front what it means to be successful in your Balanced Business – and make sure you count more than money in your Success Variables – what does success mean to YOU and to your business?
  • Surround yourself with people you enjoy working with and who share your values in your business.
  • Do something just for you every day.
  • Know what YOU need to be happy.

Yes, when you are running your own business, it all starts with you. The more you know yourself, your limitations, your personal gifts and what fills your tank, the more you can create a life and a business that you love to be in and where you will feel balanced, no matter how much you work and no matter what other people may say.

Because, if you are working most of the time and LOVING it, I would argue that you are balanced.

All this because you get to define it and you get to create your own Personal Business Equation – which defines success on your terms.

What do you need to feel in balance in your business or anywhere for that matter? The more you know that up front, the more you can be assured you will be enjoying the fruits of your labour for many, many years.

About the Author, Susan Elford

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Susan Elford, PR Strategist & Leadership Coach, works with start-ups and seasoned entrepreneurs to help them get real about their strengths and celebrate them so they get more of what they want; clients, exposure and success, while living a life of balance.

Visit Susan at www.elfordcommunications.com for traditional PR support and www.susanelford.com for a look into how she works with her coaching clients.


Ending Self-Sabotage: How to Turn the Enemy Within Into an Ally

Ending Self-Sabotage: How to Turn the Enemy Within Into an Ally
You have a big presentation in the morning and have carefully proofed it for typos. You have selected your outfit. You have downloaded the directions and made sure you have a full tank of gas.

Knowing it’s important to get a good night sleep, you turn in early only to toss and turn all night as you rewrite your presentation in your head all night long …

You made a commitment to a spending plan at the beginning of the year and have been diligently keeping your agreements with yourself for over four months now.

Yesterday, you were idly scrolling through a couple of your favorite shopping sites and fell in love with a gorgeous purse in the season’s hottest color.  You hit BUY without thinking …

You’ve just lost those extra 10 pounds (again) and to celebrate, you order in a large pizza with all the trimmings, a jumbo soda, and know that today’s the day that you will demolish the pint of chunky chocolate chip ice cream in the freezer …

These are just a few of the ways we self-sabotage but there are plenty more. 

Can you recognize any of these other self-sabotaging traits that result in you getting in your own way?

  • Pushing or rushing to achieve results:  This behavior almost always backfires; in your impatience, you make mistakes, overlook key details, or make impulsive decisions that have not been thought through.
  • Being overly dramatic:  When your response to a situation is larger than necessary or expected, it can suck all the air out of the room.  It pushes other people away.
  • Withdrawing due to fear of rejection:  If you are afraid of failure, you might talk yourself out of even trying or getting started.  It can lead to paralyzing indecision and overly-cautious behaviors that are undermining and non-supportive.
  • Self-defeating extravagance:  You might tell yourself that you deserve this treat, or that one, but ultimately, if you are undercutting your own financial security, you do not mean yourself well.  
  • Workaholic tendencies: Working all the time may inflate your sense of importance, but it can also create isolating aloofness and a disconnect from the things in life that truly matter, like family, intimacy, self-care, play, and one’s spiritual growth.
  • Stubbornness: When you are overly attached to your own perceptions versus being open to considering other people’s point-of-view, you can find yourself getting competitive versus collaborative. Stubbornness can mask a compulsion to be right and give rise to destructive rebellion.
  • Demoralizing perfectionism:  Perfectionism shows up in different ways, such as excessive questioning, obsessive worrying, compulsively blaming others or oneself, and behaving like a “superior victim.”

So, where does this self-defeating behavior stem from?

The easy answer is that it arises from your thoughts and your feelings. 

Negative thoughts about oneself generate self-loathing. A feeling of not being good enough and of not belonging.

When you stuff those feelings, you empower them.

When I was a child I remember wondering who was that who was speaking such hateful things in my head?

In my 30’s, I discovered in A Course in Miracles that I choose to think the thoughts I think, and that if I didn’t like the thought I was thinking, I could choose to think another thought.

That was truly empowering!

I also learned that our thoughts have the power to create our reality. Thinking a negative thought was an attack thought on myself.  That really got my attention!

I wondered why I would hate myself so much by thinking that bad things were going to happen to me, that nobody loved me, and so on.

By thinking these negative thoughts over and over, I was calling them into my reality.

Growing up in England, I learned we didn’t express our feelings (it just wasn’t done!) and we acted as if nothing was wrong, whether we had been hurt to the core or were feeling traumatized.

As an empath, I could feel the pain and frustration of my mother and could see she had nowhere to go with it.  She died of cancer in her early 50’s and I was in my mid-30’s when I realized I was on the same path.

With this realization, I knew that getting in touch with my feelings and learning to release them safely, harm to none, would not only save my life but support me in showing up authentically in my life.

Through steadily releasing my feelings over time, I let go of my childhood defense patterns of perfectionism, having no needs, and rushing through my discomfort.

Now, that I choose to think thoughts that support me, that mean me well, and no longer entertain or dwell on negative thoughts that terrorize me, undermine me, and now that I choose to release negative feelings quickly, in privacy, without holding on to them, and with harm to none, I see my body and mind as my greatest allies and partners in life.

My willingness to take the time to go step-by-step in building my business, and to allow the passage of time to reveal the right path, instead of being impulsive and impatient has ultimately supported business growth that is connected to my values.

No longer rushing to the finish line has resulted in my cultivating flexibility, tempering my arrogance and releasing stubbornness.  Calming my mental anxiety through meditation and choosing the thoughts I think, gives me the courage to be myself, to be aware of my needs and ultimately to trust myself.

Does it take time and focus?

Life is an awareness game; it is lived in the present moment.  Every time you become aware you are thinking a negative thought, whether it is about you or a client or someone else, catch it and stop it.

Think another thought, a thought that is positive and supportive.  You free yourself from self-sabotage, one thought at a time.

Love and blessings,
Aimée

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About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

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Law Of Attraction: How To Engineer Your Brain To Succeed In Business

When it comes to building a prosperous business, your brain is the greatest tool you have.

It’s not an esoteric concept… but it does require discipline and laser-like focus.

Business Advisor and Mentor Dana Smithers explains in this quick interview how you can use psychology to position your mindset for success.

 

The vast majority of entrepreneurs fail to succeed in business because of their inability to engineer a solution-oriented mindset. They get boggled down in day-to-day conflict and pay the price when the perceived drama starts to drive them insane.

The end result: a miserable, overly sensitive brain that inevitably impedes progress.

If this sounds familiar, you’re in luck, because you’re about to rid yourself of this bad habit once and for all.

How can the Law of Attraction deliver the goods?

When it comes to business, the Law of Attraction is as simple a concept as it gets:

You attract success by removing your ego from the equation and by focusing your positive energy on whatever goal you set for yourself.

Oftentimes, this means you might have to ditch those clients who consistently try to nickel and dime you, for example.

For this to work, you have to make a commitment, right now, to refuse to be a slave to your biochemistry. Let it be a new fact of life.

You can master this in a short afternoon if you accept that some things will never be under your control. The one thing you can retain control of is your own attitude towards challenge and conflict.

So go forth and conquer – it’s time to cement your status as an entrepreneur who gets things done.

If you have any questions about using psychology to improve your business practices, feel free to leave a message in the comment section below and I’d be happy to answer. Also, if you’re looking to boost your digital marketing to the next level, sign up for my free newsletter.

Until next time,
Susan Friesen

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Why Having FOCUS Is Key To Manifesting What You Want

Why Having FOCUS Is Key To Manifesting What You Want

The Law of Attraction is all about vibrations and its job description is to ‘match vibrations’ and those are either positive or negative.

When you focus on what you want by putting out a positive vibe, the Law of Attraction is happy to bring you what you need to do, know or have.

If you find yourself grumbling about this and that in your life, how much you have to do and how you know you’ll never get it all done – well, the Law of Attraction just gives you more of that madness too!

Multitasking Is Not The Way To Start Your Day

Most entrepreneurs find themselves having to play a lot of different roles in their business and wear many different hats. It’s like you are a juggler with business tasks and personal tasks trying to keep them all going at the same time.

If you happen to be a mom-preneur or dad-preneur then you have the added responsibility of taking care of children too!

You might be someone who starts your day with an impressive ‘To Do List’ or, you might just ‘wing’ it and see how the day unfolds. Either way you most likely find yourself multitasking and not really accomplishing all that you wanted to.

The best way to start your day from a Law of Attraction perspective is to:

  1. Set your intention – ask yourself how you want to see your day unfolding – put the focus only on business goals (your personal goals can be handled in a different way on a different day)
  2. Create 3 business goals that you want to accomplish or get started on – prioritize what needs to get done by the urgency of the task (usually time sensitive)
  3. Remove each achieved goal and continue to create another list with just 3 goals – make them manageable, realistic goals that you know you will feel better once they are accomplished
  4. Celebrate your success – doesn’t matter how you celebrate just do it and if you can put in some movement with your celebration (happy dances are good) to anchor this great feeling in your body, all the better
  5. Do ‘segment intentions’ – if you find yourself pulled away from something you had prioritized because something just came to you that is time sensitive then, set another intention

Focus On What You Want and Not On What You Do Not Want

You may have never thought of this but everything you decide you ‘want’ you arrived at that decision by noticing what you ‘do not want’. In Law of Attraction lingo we call this getting to CLARITY from CONTRAST.

When you go into a new restaurant you finally decide what you do want by looking at everything you don’t want. You use this technique throughout your personal and professional lives whether you are aware of it or not.

If you are working on several different projects, think about narrowing those down and focus on  only 1 or 2 and until you have achieved what you wanted to achieve.

When you are unfocused and have too many goals or projects on the go then you are being ‘wishy washy’ and the Law of Attraction doesn’t know what you really want so it too, will dilute what you manifest.

Take 1 project and create a list of everything you ‘Don’t Want aka Contrast’ and then create another list of everything you ‘Do Want aka Clarity’.

Delete everything you don’t want and focus only on the new list which gives you the clarity of what you do want!

About the Author, Dana J. Smithers

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Dana J. Smithers is on a mission to inspire and empower women entrepreneurs around the world. At 50 she left a high-paying corporate job and over the years launched 3 businesses earning a 6-figure income.

As a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer she you how to use LOA tools to build a business by working on your limiting beliefs. As a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide she helps you discover what makes you feel on purpose and fulfilled. As an Emotion Code practitioner Dana knows how to release your trapped negative emotions that have built up over the years and are now holding you back from moving forward. She invites you to sign up for her enewsletter for tips, insights and inspiration and her FREE ebook 'The POWER of your WORDS' at Empowered Women in Business. She looks forward to making a real connection with you on www.FB.com/coachdanasmithers. Her NEW Law of Attraction Gratitude Journal is available on www.amazon.com.