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Ending Self-Sabotage: How to Turn the Enemy Within Into an Ally

Ending Self-Sabotage: How to Turn the Enemy Within Into an Ally
You have a big presentation in the morning and have carefully proofed it for typos. You have selected your outfit. You have downloaded the directions and made sure you have a full tank of gas.

Knowing it’s important to get a good night sleep, you turn in early only to toss and turn all night as you rewrite your presentation in your head all night long …

You made a commitment to a spending plan at the beginning of the year and have been diligently keeping your agreements with yourself for over four months now.

Yesterday, you were idly scrolling through a couple of your favorite shopping sites and fell in love with a gorgeous purse in the season’s hottest color.  You hit BUY without thinking …

You’ve just lost those extra 10 pounds (again) and to celebrate, you order in a large pizza with all the trimmings, a jumbo soda, and know that today’s the day that you will demolish the pint of chunky chocolate chip ice cream in the freezer …

These are just a few of the ways we self-sabotage but there are plenty more. 

Can you recognize any of these other self-sabotaging traits that result in you getting in your own way?

  • Pushing or rushing to achieve results:  This behavior almost always backfires; in your impatience, you make mistakes, overlook key details, or make impulsive decisions that have not been thought through.
  • Being overly dramatic:  When your response to a situation is larger than necessary or expected, it can suck all the air out of the room.  It pushes other people away.
  • Withdrawing due to fear of rejection:  If you are afraid of failure, you might talk yourself out of even trying or getting started.  It can lead to paralyzing indecision and overly-cautious behaviors that are undermining and non-supportive.
  • Self-defeating extravagance:  You might tell yourself that you deserve this treat, or that one, but ultimately, if you are undercutting your own financial security, you do not mean yourself well.  
  • Workaholic tendencies: Working all the time may inflate your sense of importance, but it can also create isolating aloofness and a disconnect from the things in life that truly matter, like family, intimacy, self-care, play, and one’s spiritual growth.
  • Stubbornness: When you are overly attached to your own perceptions versus being open to considering other people’s point-of-view, you can find yourself getting competitive versus collaborative. Stubbornness can mask a compulsion to be right and give rise to destructive rebellion.
  • Demoralizing perfectionism:  Perfectionism shows up in different ways, such as excessive questioning, obsessive worrying, compulsively blaming others or oneself, and behaving like a “superior victim.”

So, where does this self-defeating behavior stem from?

The easy answer is that it arises from your thoughts and your feelings. 

Negative thoughts about oneself generate self-loathing. A feeling of not being good enough and of not belonging.

When you stuff those feelings, you empower them.

When I was a child I remember wondering who was that who was speaking such hateful things in my head?

In my 30’s, I discovered in A Course in Miracles that I choose to think the thoughts I think, and that if I didn’t like the thought I was thinking, I could choose to think another thought.

That was truly empowering!

I also learned that our thoughts have the power to create our reality. Thinking a negative thought was an attack thought on myself.  That really got my attention!

I wondered why I would hate myself so much by thinking that bad things were going to happen to me, that nobody loved me, and so on.

By thinking these negative thoughts over and over, I was calling them into my reality.

Growing up in England, I learned we didn’t express our feelings (it just wasn’t done!) and we acted as if nothing was wrong, whether we had been hurt to the core or were feeling traumatized.

As an empath, I could feel the pain and frustration of my mother and could see she had nowhere to go with it.  She died of cancer in her early 50’s and I was in my mid-30’s when I realized I was on the same path.

With this realization, I knew that getting in touch with my feelings and learning to release them safely, harm to none, would not only save my life but support me in showing up authentically in my life.

Through steadily releasing my feelings over time, I let go of my childhood defense patterns of perfectionism, having no needs, and rushing through my discomfort.

Now, that I choose to think thoughts that support me, that mean me well, and no longer entertain or dwell on negative thoughts that terrorize me, undermine me, and now that I choose to release negative feelings quickly, in privacy, without holding on to them, and with harm to none, I see my body and mind as my greatest allies and partners in life.

My willingness to take the time to go step-by-step in building my business, and to allow the passage of time to reveal the right path, instead of being impulsive and impatient has ultimately supported business growth that is connected to my values.

No longer rushing to the finish line has resulted in my cultivating flexibility, tempering my arrogance and releasing stubbornness.  Calming my mental anxiety through meditation and choosing the thoughts I think, gives me the courage to be myself, to be aware of my needs and ultimately to trust myself.

Does it take time and focus?

Life is an awareness game; it is lived in the present moment.  Every time you become aware you are thinking a negative thought, whether it is about you or a client or someone else, catch it and stop it.

Think another thought, a thought that is positive and supportive.  You free yourself from self-sabotage, one thought at a time.

Love and blessings,
Aimée

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

The Power of Unplugging and Prioritizing Time for Rest

The Power of Unplugging and getting rest

How Busy Entrepreneurs Can Prioritize Time for Rest

The problem with our harried, living on adrenaline, multitasking overloaded culture is that running without stopping strips our lives from meaning.

I’m talking about 50-60-hour workweeks, working late into the night and over weekends, being a slave to your to-do list, and eating lunch at your desk or “car dining.”…

Do you feel like you are running like crazy but never getting anywhere (like the Queen of Hearts in Alice in Wonderland)?

And yet, paradoxically, if you unplug regularly you actually get more done!  That’s because regular rest renews your energy and motivation; it reconnects you to your joy, to your communities, and heals your soul.

Sadly, in the relentlessness busyness of modern life, we have a culture that promotes doing anything is better than doing nothing!

Overriding our natural rhythms enables us to get more done as does the lure of multitasking that teaches us how to never fully engage or fully disengage from anything!  It’s the reason why so many of us experience sleep disorders – we’ve lost the art of being delightfully inactive!

Do you prioritize time for rest?

I’m not talking about sacking out in front of the television; television is hardly restful these days!  No; TV is designed to stimulate you; to rile you up or to make you feel badly about yourself so that you will want to buy or consume something that will make you feel better!

Taking a retreat on a regular basis from the demands of your life, whether it’s a 2-hour retreat or an afternoon retreat, will require some planning and education of other key players in your life.

Some years ago, when I started taking Sunday as my retreat day, I carefully explained my lack of availability for invitations, phone calls and emails on that day of the week.

It didn’t go well…  I was greeted with shock and horror that I wouldn’t be available 24/7.  Invitations came with the request: “Perhaps you could make an exception for this?”  Emails arrived with a header, “I know you don’t work on Sundays but perhaps you could find time for me?”

I ended up disconnecting the phone and unplugging the computer.

What rejuvenates you?

Planning time for rest is essential, and scheduling those times into your calendar is a must – but remembering what juices you, what fills you and what recharges your batteries is important too – otherwise, you may default to filling the space with working.

Spending time in nature is especially renewing, as is napping, bathing, dancing, cooking, creating, walking or running.

I used to start each retreat day with the question, “What do you need?”  I’d ask it again periodically throughout the day.

Sometimes, I needed sleep more than anything.  Sometimes, I needed to simply be in the peace and quiet, the stillness.  Other times, I felt more creative and would start an art project, or experienced the joy of reading a book cover to cover.

Do you need to be alone? 

It’s your choice.  If you can disconnect around other people for a period of time, then it’s not necessary to be alone.  Provided they understand the new rules.

You might like to light a candle as a reminder that you are resting for this period of time.  Perhaps later, you would enjoy coming together in a family meal.  Or, to enjoy your partner’s undivided attention as you share your insights.

What are the costs of a life without rest?

Who suffers the most?  The children, who can never get your attention? “Mom!  Mom!”  “I’m on the phone!”  “You’re always on the phone…”

Is it your spouse?  Or, is it your friends and community?

Or, is it your clients; yes, you show up for them, but how are you really showing up? Or, is it you?  Demanding too much out of a day and pushing your body to its limits is like waging war on your soul.

If we only stop when all the work is done, we will never stop. 

The pace of technology allows us to be seduced by artificial urgency that prevents us from listening to our own deepest truth. When we don’t take the time to really rest, we lose our way.

We “don’t have time” to listen to our inner wisdom.

We “forget” who and what is most important in a well-lived life.

When we are exhausted, we can be surrounded by people all day long and still feel disconnected and lonely.  The frenzy of activity diminishes our capacity for inner peace.

If you are New Year Resolution averse, perhaps you simply need to reset your intentions and intend that this year you will take the time to savor life.

Love and blessings,
Aimée

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

Why Criticism Feels So Scary and How to Handle it

Why Criticism Feels So Scary and How to Handle it

We usually get our first experience of criticism from our parents. 

With few exceptions, harried parents are not present or conscious enough to separate out, our behavior from who we are.

Telling children that they are bad or wicked for misbehaving sets up a defense pattern against criticism that can undermine us in both our personal and professional life.

Other comments, such as, “You’ll be the death of me!” or, “What is wrong with you?” are equally lethal.

As a result, most of us develop low self-worth or insecurity early in life.

Noticing that we seem to be unable to get our parents’ undivided attention, a steady source of unconditional love, or that our parents are at odds with each other, worried about money or distracted with their own issues, causes us to worry that there really is something wrong with us.

Without the verbal skills of inquiry, we tend to stuff this fear and look for what does get attention and/or love.  We innately know that we need attention in order to survive.

On some levels, it doesn’t matter if the attention is negative or positive – attention is attention, and it feeds us the energy.

As a child, I saw that not being a bother, having no needs, being perfect, and smiling all the time did the trick.  This then became my “act.”  Does the act work to get the love and/or attention you need to survive?

You bet it does!

But, the problem is that the love and/or attention goes to the act and not to the part of you that has low self-worth or is insecure.

Eventually, you become resentful of the act; after all, you feel that you have to keep it going, can’t rest on your laurels, and it becomes a burden.

The act is also a defense against intimacy.  If someone gets too close to you, you have to push them away in case they were to penetrate your act and discover “the real truth about you.”

Also, if someone criticizes either an aspect of your act or calls it into question, it can trigger your unhealed survival issues.

Unprocessed fear is usually inappropriate in its intensity to the nature of the situation at hand.  So, you can find yourself lashing out, at complete strangers or even at those you love.

Another response is to shut down, slamming the door on any possibility of re-connection – at least in that moment and for as long as it takes to come around (sometimes never).

Any unhealed childhood issues are bound to arise in the workplace as well as in our client and personal relationships.  That’s because relationships are designed to bring up anything unhealed in childhood.

There’s no escaping from that core truth. So, what to do?

You can start by getting in touch with your defense patterns and as you diffuse them, you will find it easier to accept constructive criticism in the spirit it was intended:

  1. Look at what you judge or make wrong in others:

    This is perhaps the easiest way to find your stuff, although not so easy or comfortable when you are not willing to own it in your own behavior! Everyone is a reflection of you: what you like and don’t like about yourself.

  2. Unpack the group/family/office patterns:

    This one builds on the first one, as groups tend to gather together to work through karma together and grow together. Family patterns are easiest to spot and perhaps the hardest to overcome as many families never try to fix dysfunctional patterns.

    Instead they are tolerated or worked around.

    Group or office patterns can be harder to spot because we tend to play the blame game, pointing fingers at others instead of taking responsibility for our own part. The most senior players and those with most longevity set the tone and attract others of a similar vibration.

    That is why even as group members or staff members leave, others will arrive who either consciously or unconsciously see the patterns at work and seek to fit in rather than make waves and risk being shunned.

  3. Ask someone you trust and respect about your blind spot:

    Now, the operative words in this sentence are trust and respect; since your blind spot can be an area of vulnerability that you have deeply buried, developed coping strategies around and pray no one will ever call you out on it.

    Often a trusted friend, colleague, or a professional can help you to get in touch with a blind spot.

    Once you’ve identified it, stay present with it, look at all the ramifications of it and imagine what life would be like without it. What could you do differently to be more effective?

  4. Play the awareness game, Resistance has many faces:

    We addressed one of them (blame) above and another is sublimation. We pretend that it really isn’t a problem, or that we can’t do anything about it, we might even argue for our limitation!

    Playing the awareness game gives us a chance to be present with what is happening, to notice the impact we have on other people when we criticize them and the impact on us when we are criticized.

    There is a distinct change in the energy when people shut down and if you try to gloss over it, as in a meeting, without addressing it – nothing authentic occurs after that moment.

    This can be particularly deadly in staff or client meetings. You might even be aware that there is “an elephant in the room” but be too fearful to address it.

  5. Clean up your messes:

    This is truly time-sensitive. The longer you wait, the greater the potential for damage. However, your best chance for success is to get in touch with and express your feelings in privacy and safety first.

    Underneath your feelings of anger and sadness is key information, an a-ha, so to speak.  This helps you understand why you got triggered and helps you to get in touch with what you need.

    Once you have processed your feelings, the charge in your voice tone is eliminated. You are able to ask clarifying questions, take responsibility for your part in the upset, and ask for what you need calmly and rationally.

    Women, especially, find it difficult to talk in the moment of an upset without crying, which can infuriate others, especially men, who feel manipulated by the tears.

    Taking a time out to process your feelings and then to make a time to talk is a very powerful strategy for navigating through difficulties in communication.

  6. Pay the “Haters” no mind:

    Don’t let your detractors steal your energy; by interacting with them you merge with their energy.

  7. Look for the kernel of value:

    Eventually, as you identify your triggers, you might even find yourself welcoming constructive criticism in the spirit it was intended: to help you be the best you can be.  

As always, life is a journey and learning how to handle criticism positively is a rite of passage.  I’d love to hear from you if you found this article helpful, and I think I can now handle constructive criticism too!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

7 Essential Keys to Developing Self-Trust

7 Essential Keys to Developing Self-Trust

Reflecting back on my life, I remember feeling so envious of people who felt comfortable in their own skin and radiated self-confidence at the time when I felt like a shrinking violet.

A vivid memory that stands out is when I was in my early 20s, sitting in the audience watching a man on stage giving a lecture about the benefits of meditation.  I was mesmerized, not by his words, but by his presence.

He wasn’t particularly good-looking, nor did he have a ‘killer’ body; it wasn’t even that he was charismatic.  So what was it about him that utterly riveted my attention?

He was relaxed and comfortable in himself. He trusted himself completely.

Observing him sharing his thoughts and personal stories, and later fielding questions from the audience, I knew that my first step was to learn how to meditate and that more would be revealed.

Practicing meditation calmed and released my stress, supported my composure under pressure and heightened my awareness.  I noticed that:

  • I said, “Yes” when I wanted to say, “No” or, at least, “I don’t know, can I get back to you?”
  • I caved in to others’ ideas and suggestions, letting my own input bite the dust.
  • I watched how I undermined my own decision-making, second-guessing myself.
  • I routinely put other people’s needs and desires before my own.
  • I tried so hard to be perfect or what others seemingly wanted me to be.
  • And, I realized that I didn’t trust myself.

I came to understand over time that you cannot be trusted unless you trust yourself completely, and you cannot trust others if you do not trust yourself!

It became my imperative to develop self-trust.  On the one hand, it is an ongoing project but, on the other hand, it really is doable. Here’s how I did it:

  1. Developing self-trust begins with the daily practice of grounding and centering.

    One of my biggest obstacles was that I developed a preference as a child for being out of my body. It felt safer to be out than in; after all, if I were in my body, I would have to feel all the pain I was in.
     
    I now call this “faulty problem-solving.”  That is, you ostensibly solve one problem but, in actuality, are creating another.  Not only does being out of your body leave your body unattended and defenseless but all of your resources like your intellect, intuition, feelings and innate body intelligence and strength can only be experienced when you are in the body.
     
    And, there’s more: when you are ungrounded, you are scattered, feel overwhelmed, anxious, run late, and will say anything in the moment (because you are not connected to your truth).
     
    I saw that this was the core of my own lack of self-trust and that, in truth, I was not trustworthy.  I became highly motivated to become a woman of integrity.
     
    There are many ways to get grounded and centered.  The one we teach is a simple breathing and visualization process.  Some people are naturally grounded, others spend time in nature or in their garden.
     
    For those whose childhood was challenging, getting back into your body is the way to protect yourself going forward and to release the pain of the past, so it no longer holds you back.

  2. Say what you mean, mean what you say and don’t say anything if you are unsure.

     
    This takes discipline and practice, but is essential to developing self-trust.
     
    At first, I only noticed that I had just committed to do something I had no desire to do after the fact.  Although I was horrible embarrassed, I forced myself to clean it up, apologizing for wasting the person’s time.
     
    After doing this several times in a row, I was able to catch my words mid-sentence in the moment, and take them back.  “Oh, just listen to me!  I have no business saying, ‘yes’ to this request.  Excuse me, please.”
     
    Finally, I was rewarded: I was able to catch the habitual pattern of giving myself away before I spoke.  Although I couldn’t bring myself to say, “no” right away, I would let the person know I needed to think about it, check my schedule and would get back to them by a certain time.
     
    This is such a great technique: buying some time versus acting from a programmed response was liberating!  It allowed me to renew my grounding and then to see what was my truth?

  3. Be self-loyal: keep the promises you made to yourself

     
    When you have a pattern of giving yourself away piece-by-piece, you put your own goals at the bottom of your priorities. You keep telling yourself that you will take a walk or a nap to renew your energy when it slumps, but somehow it always slips your mind or you rationalize that you are too busy today (and every day).
     
    How often do you ‘forget’ to go to the ATM or even to go to the bathroom when you need to?
     
    A word here about making and keeping your promises to others. It’s not a good idea to make promises to others if you haven’t kept the ones you previously made!
     
    Pull the rug on yourself!  Share that you are mortified that you broke past promises and while you are working to rectify that in yourself, you will let your actions speak louder than your words.
     
    Then make sure that you do.  Trust is earned.

  4. Be responsible for handling your own needs, without drama or depleting others.

     
    Consistently handling your own needs, with no muss or fuss, is the way to show up responsibly.
     
    Making sure you are grounded before you show up at work or deal with problems in the home, allows you to be your best self. Neediness pushes others away.  Running drama is toxic and completely out of integrity as you are compromising and depleting others.
     
    Years ago, I made a new agreement, that I have kept, to handle my own needs at the beginning of the day, even if it meant getting up a little earlier than usual.  Handling my own needs, supported me in being able to give focused attention to my clients, without resentment.

  5. Decide what integrity means to you, what it looks like and sounds like and be in integrity!

     
    Your integrity is your own code of ethics, no matter how the people around you behave, it’s how you behave. Your self-esteem flows from your integrity.

  6. Avoid people who support you in keeping the old patterns alive.

     
    These are the people who undermine your self-trust; they are the ones who try to talk you out of what’s best for you, make light of the issues that you are working on, so that they can still run their own energy-sapping behaviors around you!
     
    When you are ungrounded, you make other people work harder – you forget key details and need to be reminded, you show up late for appointments and sessions with professionals, perhaps without your checkbook!
     
    When you clean up your own act, the behavior of others comes to the fore. Do the individuals who surround you support you? Do they add value?  Do you really want them in your life?

  7. Remember that building self-trust is a journey: if you screw up, forgive yourself (and clean up your mess.)

     
    Developing self-trust also includes treating yourself like a best friend. A best friend is patient when they see that you are really committed to new behavior.  They will even partner you in gently catching the old programmed responses and question them.  “Is this really what you want to say?  Is this your truth?”
     
    So, the next time you make a mistake and criticize yourself harshly, catch yourself, and instead say, “Oh, there’s that old pattern again,” or “Oops, let’s try that again.”  Creating a safe internal environment for embracing change is essential, so do yourself a favor and start today!

    I know that many people are looking for the instant fix, to pop a pill as it were, and as such I was tempted to call this article, The Fastest and Easiest Path to Self-Trust,” or “Three Shortcuts to Developing Self-Trust,” but I would be out of integrity in doing so.
     
    No, it is a journey.  Somedays you feel triumphant and exhilarated as you demonstrate a new behavior; other days, you feel as though you haven’t made any progress at all.  But even two steps forward and one backward is progress.  You will succeed if you keep on, keeping on!

If this article touched a chord in you, or if you would like to share what works for you, we would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section below.

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

Three Simple Questions For Facilitating Self Discovery

Three Simple Questions For Facilitating Self Discovery

Do you sometimes feel that you are racing from one deadline to another, with no time even to take a breath? Tell the truth: is it sometimes, often or always?

Not only does that behavior cause the days, weeks and months to zip by in a blur, but also it disallows any time for reflection, refinement and celebration.

These three simple questions can be applied to a myriad of situations:

  1. What did I do today that I am pleased with or even proud of? Be specific.
  2. Given the opportunity to do this over again, what would I do differently to be even more effective? Be specific.
  3. What is one inspired action step I am willing to commit to in order to put this intention into action? Be specific.

Always start with the positive

It appears to be a human trait to immediately leap to what’s not working well. You may notice that even when you ask yourself the first question, your mind focuses on the negative.

Tell yourself, “We’ll get to that later; right now, I’m looking at what went well.” Do this even if you feel what you did was a disaster – there’s always something you did well.

Starting with the positive feeds your self-esteem and allows you to look at any needed improvements in the right context (you usually do good work, right?). Perhaps, even more importantly, when you spend some time reflecting on what went well and why it went well, that is, what did you specifically do that resulted in a good outcome, then you can repeat it.

Do not rush through your answers to the first question; through your inquiry you may find a best practice that you want to continue or even share with your own tribe.

Transitioning to what could be even more effective

First, pay attention to the language of, “What would I do differently to be even more effective? Notice how honoring that phrase is. Again, this feeds your self-esteem and disrupts the mind’s habit of focusing on what has been done wrong, badly or poorly.

As most of you know, defensiveness gets in the way of clarity and you can often find yourself arguing for your limitations.

Once you identify your “do differently,” brainstorm a number of ideas you could pursue to be even more effective next time. For example:

  • Do I know of someone who has expertise in this area?
  • Do I need to take more time getting my facts in order?
  • Do I need a system to ensure mistakes don’t happen again?
  • What skills do I need to brush up on?
  • Do I need to invest in new equipment?

Once you have several ideas on how to be even more effective, begin the process of evaluating them. How feasible are they? How effective would they be? Are they affordable? How excited are you about committing to this idea?

Eventually, one idea, or two at the most, will clearly stand out. Now you are ready to commit to your action step(s).

Your Inspired Action Step(s)

All your good work can be undone, if you make a long to-do list at this point. You know that if your overcommitted nothing gets done! You already have enough to do! No, this is about committing to one Inspired Action Step, or two at the most.

Remember that being committed means being willing to do whatever it takes, while being interested means doing whatever is convenient. When you decide on your action step, you are making a commitment to yourself, and your word is your bond.

Don’t be vague when writing your action step. Make sure it is specific, time-dated and measurable. Write it in your calendar or phone, or whatever system you use to keep you on track. Again, if you don’t write it down, it won’t get done.

Finally, make sure you follow-up. Did your action step increase your effectiveness? Is it a practice that you will keep doing? If not, then it’s back to the drawing board. Pick another idea, implement it and review the result.

Continued improvement

In this way of using the three questions to facilitate self-discovery, you find that you are simply, effortlessly and consistently making improvements. Your self-esteem is high and you are honoring your own wisdom.

You can make this an ongoing practice; perhaps it’s the ritual you apply at the end of each day, or at the end of a week, or the end of a project? You decide – and commit to it!

Oh, and why is facilitating self-discovery so powerful? You are more committed to your own ideas versus other peoples’. Think about it: you didn’t like being told what to do when you were 2 years old, and you don’t like it any better now!

I’d love to hear your comments and questions!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

How to Unpack Resistance Not Serving You or Your Business

How to Unpack Resistance Not Serving You or Your Business

Saying “No” to Outdated Relationships and Situations and Saying “yes!” to Your Success Instead

This year, I avoided all of the hoo-ha associated with making New Year’s Resolutions.

I made my commitment on December 1st to spend an hour a day, five or more days a week, exercising my body!

Now, I don’t make commitments lightly, because my word is my bond, and I understand the difference between being interested (you’ll do whatever is convenient) versus committed (you’ll do whatever it takes). So, what changed?

I had a new thought. I realized that I had been interested in supporting my body through diet and exercise but not committed. It hit me that I needed my body to support me more than ever over the years ahead but that I was not doing my part to support it.

Then ‘the big a-ha’ hit: everything in life comes down to vibrational frequency.

The higher your frequency, the happier, healthier, the more successful you are and the more you attract high vibrational people and opportunities.

While I grounded and centered, meditated and (mostly) ate whole foods daily, there was another area that was critical, and it was the one I had resisted for 10 years. Oh sure, I stretched most nights but in spite of my beloved Victor’s reticence, I used the time to chatter and play, versus actually connecting with my body.

Since December, Victor and I do our yoga practice to music but in silence. Holding each pose for 4 full breaths and tuning into my body to ensure that I am holding no unnecessary tension has been transformative.

In two months, I appreciate that I have been resisting what supports me the most!

I am stronger, more flexible, more alive. I am sleeping better, my skin is better and I have stabilized my weight. On the downside, it took me ten years to get it! On the upside, the only time is now!

To what outdated relationships or situations are you clinging?

Resisting change seems to be a human frailty.

And yet, ironically, we all know the only thing that is constant on Earth is change! Resistance often comes from a lack of trust – if you release a toxic relationship, personal or professional, will it be replaced by someone better or will you be left feeling that you cut off your nose to spite your face?

Holding on to either relationships that have run their course or to relationships that enmesh you in low frequency, like gossip, negative thinking, fear-based thinking or being at the effect of someone else’s chronic disorganization, is a way to keep yourself stuck.

Whatever you say, “yes” to, you merge with.

Which of your relationships, client, vendor, colleague or personal, are irritating you, frustrating you, limiting you and wasting your precious time? They are demanding to be disintegrated.

The act of letting go, difficult as it may be, will liberate you.

The pain only comes when we are unwilling to let go. Saying, “no” to outdated relationships and situations is saying, “yes!” to oneself.

Where are you diminishing yourself through limited thinking and outdated beliefs?

How many thoughts do you have in day? Researchers say the range is between 12,000 and 50,000, and as many as 70% – 80% of them are negative! Even worse, most of us thought those very same negative thoughts yesterday, and the day before that…

Negative thoughts attack your clarity, muddy your insight and create a mood of anxiety, even if, in actuality, everything is going well. Worse still, experts agree that thinking the same negative thought over and over can create the very dire set of circumstances you fear!

Many of us picked up this pattern of negative thinking from our parents; it was reinforced as we grew up as we realized most every other person does this too, but does that make it acceptable?

It’s a habit, and habits can be changed.

Of course, changing a habit is going to bring up resistance but only if you don’t see the benefits of change for you.

Releasing your doubts and fears, recognizing that your fears have nothing to do with reality and refusing to attack yourself anymore allows you to own the skills you have acquired and master the skills needed to achieve what you long for most deeply.

It can be as simple as saying, “Cancel! Cancel! Cancel!” to a negative thought and then replacing it with a positive one.

Which tasks or situations are challenging for you?

Resistance can be found in any situation that you are struggling with in life.

Sometimes the resistance lies in simply asking for help. Why is it so hard to ask for help? You may have been shamed as a child or young adult, or you may have bought into the need to be perfect, or you may have been brainwashed by corporate life in seeing asking for help as a sign of weakness.

Instead, my business partner and I say, “This is not a going it alone lifetime! Together we are stronger!”

As long as you ask for help cleanly, not guilt-tripping anyone or seeking to manipulate them, and as long as you are willing for them so say, “no” or “not now” it’s healthy to ask for help.

In fact, not asking for help denies others the opportunity to share their gifts and talents and their love and friendship with you. We all need to feel that we are making a contribution.

Resisting asking for help can create a vulnerability in your business.

In our Doing Business Consciously 6-month course, we say that you must know what you don’t know. Hiring a professional who has a demonstrated track record of expertise in that area allows you to focus on what you do know and activities that only you can do, as ‘the secret sauce’ in your own business!

Are you open to your emotions and feelings?

We understand that many people are intimidated by the power of their feelings and are afraid to express them. Unfortunately, when you bottle up your feelings of rage and grief, disappointment and resentment, they leak over your clients, colleagues and loved ones.

And, if you continue to resist them, they can cause a dis-ease in your body, that leads to an outburst where you are out of control and say things that can never be taken back. The underlying cause of most diseases is unprocessed feelings and wounds.

The secret is to process your feelings in private because underneath your feelings is an insight that you have not been aware of.

Once you understand why your emotions have been triggered, you can express yourself in a calm and rational manner that can be heard. It’s important to recognize that you never get angry for no reason – it’s because a boundary has been overstepped or you have felt ‘dissed’ in some way; resentment comes from saying, “yes” when you wanted to say, “no.” Then, you can accept that your feelings are a gift.

Are you ready to see yourself and your life through new eyes?

We are in the midst of vast, sweeping change. Anything that no longer serves you needs to be destroyed to make way for the new.

Just like extracting a rotten tooth provides relief to the entire body, letting go of toxic and stagnant relationships and situations will fill you with new energy, motivation and a shift in your perception that allows for total transformation.

Ultimately, like me, you may see that you have been resisting your greatest good.

I’d love to hear your comments and questions below!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

Entrepreneurs: Making The Shift From Survival to “Thrival”

Entrepreneurs: Making The Shift From Survival to

It’s been a tough year, perhaps one of the toughest for many of you.

The need for changes of all kind has been shaking things up in dramatic ways affecting your businesses and relationships, living situations and your health. The more you have resisted the call for change, the harder may have been your experience.

As the dust settles, you have a choice to make: will you keep recreating the past or will you heed the clarion call for change?

Wising Up: The Need For Change

 
You are a powerful being with an amazing set of gifts and talents. So, whether you are having difficulty getting your business up and running, or you are new to having your own business, or you’ve been in business a long time already, let’s take a look at some potential reasons why you might still be in survival versus ‘thrival.’

As you read the list, notice what stands out, resonates with you or produces a charge in your body: that one’s got your name on it. Make a note of it and increase your awareness so you can catch it in the moment.

Life is an awareness game and we can’t change what we are not aware of.

Why are you still in survival?

Practical Reasons

  • Are you working at cross-purposes to yourself: do you limit yourself by seeing sales as the opposite of service, or by saying you want something but not matching your actions to your words?
  • Do you know what you don’t know: are you working in a vacuum and not analyzing your feedback?
  • Is information overload causing a brain fade: do you have a plan that focuses on what you do want to learn so you don’t waste valuable time reading emails that don’t serve your direction.

    (TIP: Unsubscribe if it doesn’t serve you.)

  • Do you have a clear vision of where you want to go and a plan for getting there: or do you feel like you are like batting in the dark?

    Perhaps you leapt into running your own business, without really thinking it through? This lack of vision allows you to be seduced off the path again and again.

  • Does your disorganization minimize your effectiveness: do you “spray and pray” versus precisely targeting, aiming and reaping the result you want? Or do you practice “fire-ready-aim” instead of “ready-aim-fire?”

    TIP: Investigate systems. E.g., Lead Capture System, social media plan, writing schedule, etc.

Emotional Reasons

  • Outstanding survival issues from the past or past lives: it’s time to let go of your stories, outdated beliefs and old hurts and wounds now.
  • Not grounded and centered, present in your body: you set yourself up for failure when you are not grounded.

    Your lack of being grounded can result in your being untrustworthy (you say things without truly being connected to yourself, forget what you said and don’t keep agreements), disorganized and scattered, and in overwhelm, leaving you open for being energy-sapped by others.

  • You give your power away, play small, dim your light, compare yourselves to others and find yourselves lacking: Do you hang out with people who cannot see you or your value?

    This is a set up for failure and disappointment. Comparing yourself to others is a no win game: whether you determine you are less than or better than – you have still created separation.

  • Your negative and fearful thoughts are keeping you stuck: there’s only fear and love. When you are in fear you are not connected to your love and are pushing it away.

    You do choose the thoughts you think, so why choose to think a fearful thought when you could be thinking a loving and supportive thought? Your fear thoughts attack you and undermine you, weakening your impact and results.

  • You have other peoples’ energy sapping you: you might not even be aware of this. Many of you are dragging other people along energetically, allowing them to cord into your life force energy and drain you.

    Pay attention to how you feel after you have been with a client or colleague – do you feel energized or depleted?

The Benefits of Change

Now, let’s look at the benefits of change because if you don’t see the benefit, why would you bother to cultivate the required new behaviors that will take you into great success and fulfillment?

  • Increased health and well-being: balancing work/play/rest is the formula for getting the most out of life and, as a side benefit, you will bring your best self to your business!

    For some of you, it might take rethinking your lifestyle, creating new agreements with yourself, re-prioritizing what truly matters. If you allow your business to invade you 24/7 you are not taking the time to “refill the well,” so to speak.

    We’re all discovering, as did Arianna Huffington, that it is not sustainable over the long haul.

  • End old patterns of isolation: Research reinforces that entrepreneurs are the loneliest people: and, not only is that not good for business it is also not good for your health.

    We know that with mile-long to-do lists, socializing may feel like a luxury but actually great ideas come from unexpected places, as do opportunities for connection and building alliances. Human beings are social beings (there are very few true recluses in the world); we all need to belong to a community, to a like-minded tribe.

    This is not a going it alone lifetime, so stop trying to do it all yourself!

  • Increased effectiveness: do less and accomplish more. We’ve been programmed by the male success model and are still operating as though we need to be available 24/7!

    This kind of thinking has caused unprecedented numbers of suicides and sudden deaths in Japan and is a very strong warning to the rest of us that life is a question of balance.

  • End old patterns of survival and financial struggle: open to a new reality of sustained abundance. Survival is in most everyone’s DNA and ancestral lineage. Instead of accepting struggle as the status quo on the earth plane, we can now let go of this programming and live as we intended in this life. It’s time!
  • Stop supporting the old success model and being a part of the problem: instead let’s be a part of the solution.

    As we know from the story of “The 100th Monkey,” it only takes a tiny percentage of people to change before the world follows suit. Let’s seize our courage and be a trailblazer, and an agent for change.

  • End patterns of confusion: connect with your purpose, and play ‘full out’ (whatever that means to you). Confusion comes from inner and outer clutter. Inner clutter comprises of your “should do’s.”

    For example, what you think you should be doing, like, “I should be rich and successful by now,” or “I should be focusing on being a good mother, not a successful entrepreneur.”

    The problem when you take your “shoulds” seriously is that they drown out your inner guidance system weakening your ability to decide what you really want and value.

  • Inner clutter also comes from allowing fear thoughts, the voice of your inner critic and other people’s opinions, to dominate and paralyze you.

    What a ruckus! Outer clutter has an effect too! Piles of clutter contain “energy cooties” that deplete your energy, enthusiasm and motivation. However busy I was, I recognized the need to tidy my office before starting any task, and it saved me time and frustration in the long run!

    When your environment is messy, it affects the clarity of your thinking, you waste time trying to find what you need and your self worth takes a dive. Hard to produce a quality piece of work with all of that going on!

You will get the most out of any new undertaking if you sincerely understand and agree with the need for change and then fully commit to the new level of thinking and behaviors required.

It’s important to understand the difference between being committed and being interested. When you are committed, you will do whatever it takes, when you are interested you will only do what is convenient.

If you particularly resonated with one of the ideas in this article, start there!

It takes three weeks to change a behavior so make sure you have the new behavior integrated before picking another idea to implement. We call this, “baby steps.”

Baby steps are not overwhelming, and before you know it, baby step by baby step, you are in new territory!

I’d love to hear your comments and questions!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

5 Steps To Finding Your Joy

5 Steps To Finding Your Joy

Working in the business arena, we often hear the following complaint from our clients, “I’ve lost my joy.” Perhaps you feel this way too?

When I was child, my father explained that while you can do what you love as a hobby, you must do what you have to in order to earn a living. I had noticed how many of the adults around me as well as those depicted on television and in the movies endured or even hated their work, and seemed to reserve their enthusiasm for the evenings and weekends.

So, my father’s counsel felt accurate, if depressing. Needless to say, my first forays into the world of business were disillusioning and I, too, couldn’t wait for quitting time.

Eventually, like many others, I made the transition from working as an employee to becoming an entrepreneur. “Now,“ I thought, “I will be doing something I love and making money!” Oh yes, and I thought I’d be working less and earning more …we all know how that goes!

It’s so easy to get lost in the minutiae, and succumb to a false sense of urgency that sucks us into the perceived need for 24/7 availability.

The five steps I have for you are not quick fixes, as finding your joy is not a one-time thing but stabilizes through the consistent demonstration of your commitment to it.

  1. Reclaim your authenticity:
    Most of us place a value on “fitting in,” we believe that it will help us feel more connected to our business and social community.
     
    And yet, does it really? And, what price are you paying? Perhaps your attempts to fit in are in fact an assault on your authenticity? Perhaps you prize fitting in more than you prize standing out from the crowd?
     
    We give ourselves away piece by piece whenever we compromise what is real and true for us. It’s not a surprise that experiencing joy is connected to your authenticity – it’s built in to who you really are!
  2. Address your needs before your wants:
    Your needs are the things without which you do not function well. In other words, they are the basic requirements of your body, mind and spirit in order to feel good.
     
    Feeling good is your body’s normal and you can build from there. Whether you have never taken the time to explore your needs or whether you believe that they are impossible to address or no one will support you doing so, you can see how much easier it appears to be to go after your wants.
     
    The problem is that addressing your wants without satisfying your needs will never make you happy!
     
    I need intimacy and touch, to be seen and valued, connected conversation, quality alone time, eight hours of sleep and time for stretching my body. I want the latest designer handbag and those gorgeous strappy sandals. Get it?
  3. Rediscover your curiosity and give yourself new experiences:
    Remember when you were a child and were insatiably curious about life? “Why and how.” were my two favorite words.
     
    Did you love to learn new things, have new experiences – even if your enthusiasm was short-lived – your joy was in the moment. Over time, it’s all too easy to settle into a routine, to play the “been there, done that” card, and to do what you feel is expected of you.
     
    Where’s the joy in that?
  4. Simplify your life:
    I read an article recently called, “The Joy of Wanting Less.” It seems to be all the rage. More and more people are finding their joy underneath the mounds of their possessions.
     
    The trend is towards doing stuff not buying It makes sense to me! Just look at the amount of time you spend on maintaining all the stuff when you could be out and about enjoying yourself! There are a number of tried and true ways to go about this without overwhelming yourself.
     
    My favorites include:

    • For every one new thing you buy, you give away, toss or sell, three others. For example, buying one new CD means getting rid of three, etc.
    • Organizing one drawer, closet or cupboard a day is manageable.
    • Keep out only what you use on a daily basis, pack up all the just in case items or duplicates. If you don’t go looking for something in 6 months, let it go.
  5. Spend more quality time with your family of choice: Who are the real loves of your life? Family of birth or family of choice? Or, both?
     
    Don’t you want the loves of your life to get the best of you? What is it that you love about spending quality with your loved ones? Do you feel appreciated, seen and valued, heard and emotionally supported?

Do you experience the joy of reciprocation? The best and most long-lasting relationships are balanced between giving and taking.

So, prioritize this sacred time, go for quality and not quantity, make sure you have some gas in your own tank before you show up and let your innate joy bubble back up!

It is, of course, possible to combine some of these ideas. For example you can be learning something new and making new friends or doing it with existing friends. You can support each other in simplifying by having clothes swaps or a joint garage sale.

Your joy has not left you forever, you can find it – it just got buried! I wish you success in your own journey and encourage you to reach out and comment below if you have any comments or further questions.

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

3 Simple Techniques To Firmly Set Your Boundaries

How to get your needs met and enjoy healthy relationships

Creating Healthy Boundaries

Ironically, over the last several years of my life I was dubbed, “The Boundary Queen.”  I take it as a compliment. 

It was not always so.

Like many, as a child I was taught that my needs were unimportant. 

Eventually, I decided that it was safer to have no needs. This is what I call a faulty problem solution: you may seem to solve one problem but you create another.

Not being able to articulate my needs set me up to go along with other people’s programs. It was as much of a problem in my professional career as it was in my personal life.

I felt like an archeologist as I attempted to excavate my needs – with the understanding that a need is something that you don’t function well without.  

As an introvert, quality alone time emerged close to the top of my list, but implementing it presented me with another challenge. I began by sharing with my closest friends that I would no longer be available on Sundays for phone conversations or in-person get-togethers. 

Immediately, I saw my core belief, that my needs were unimportant, mirrored back to me. Shockingly, my loved ones trampled over that boundary from the very get go! 

It was obvious that I needed to learn how to stand up for my boundaries if I was to enjoy a healthy life, succeed in business and negotiate more nurturing relationships.

A trio of simple techniques really helped me in my professional and personal life:

  1. The Broken Record Technique: Here’s how it goes:
    • Friend: “I’m having a party on Sunday and I want you to come.”
    • You:   “Thank you so much for thinking of me, (pause) and, as you know, I’m not available on Sundays.  Have a wonderful party!”
    • Friend: “Yes, but can’t you make an exception – we really want you to come!”
    • You: “I so appreciate your thinking of me, (pause) and I’m not available on Sundays. I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful time.”
    • Friend: “It won’t be the same without you; everyone wants you to come!  Why won’t you come?”
    • You: “I appreciate that, (pause) and I’m just not available on Sundays.”

Eventually, as you essentially repeat the same information over and over, like a broken record, they get bored and go away.
 

  1. Don’t Feel Pressured to Make a Decision in the Moment: This one works especially well if you know that you often say, “yes” when you want to say, “no.”
    • You: “Thanks for wanting to include me! Let me give it some thought and I’ll get right back to you.”
    • Colleague: “But I need to know now!”
    • You: “I understand. I’ll be sure to get back to you by end of day and let you know what I’ve decided.”

 

  1. Set Time Limits and Follow-Through: We can all use this one to minimize distractions with time wasters.
    • You: “I have just 10 minutes available to talk with you – will that work?”
    • You: “Okay, I see that our 10 minutes are up.  I need to get off the phone now.  Bye-bye.”

 

Be kind and patient with yourself as you negotiate your boundaries.

I’ve used mine to disengage from drama, to avoid being drained by others’ emergencies, to negotiate contracts, to clarify assignments, and to stand up for my own needs!

I wish you success in your own journey and encourage you to reach out if you have any comments or questions.

Do you have challenges when trying to set boundaries?

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!

6 Action-Steps Entrepreneurs Can Do To Prevent Loneliness

Lonely Woman Staring out Window

When we heard that entrepreneurs are the loneliest group of people, it really struck a chord with us.

Even though my business partner, Karen Halseth, and I know that we are blessed by our friendship and professional relationship, we still recognize the trap that so many entrepreneurs fall into.

Perhaps, without the seeming security of structured employment (a J.O.B.), an entrepreneur feels unable to say ‘no’ to what ever is offered or perhaps feels driven to work around the clock?

I know that this was our reality in the early days.

Work was the priority and intimate relationships and friendships suffered as a result; harder to spot were the health risks of loneliness. Dr. Sanjay Gupta says, “Loneliness is an invisible epidemic that affects 60 million Americans. Everyone feels lonely at times in their lives, but chronic loneliness poses a serious health risk.”

These health risks include: increased stress and aging, the risk of early death increases by 45%, and the onset of depression.

Another reason for choosing to isolate oneself may come from feelings of shame or vulnerability.

You might think you should be able to figure out how to make your business successful on your own. This may be a holdover from corporate life where male values of autonomy are used in goal setting.

Another masculine value of competition versus collaboration may also be getting in your way.

There are numerous benefits of collaborative learning such as increased retention, the development of social interaction and higher self esteem, but let’s talk about collaborative creativity.

It’s a well-known fact that by optimizing the value of a cohesive team we can accomplish breakthrough performance.  In fact studies show that the mere presence of other people stimulates creativity and performance!

Just bringing introverts and extroverts together, or different age groups, left and right brains, and both sexes, can stimulate the expansion of an idea or outcome.

So why do we resist?

Well-known author, Carolyn Myss, said, “We evolve at the rate of the tribe we are plugged into.” Put another way, “Whom you hang out with now has a lot to do with where you’ll wind up later.”

Here are some suggestions you can do to overcome entrepreneurial loneliness:

  1. Find your tribe: It can take a while to find your tribe but it’s well worth the effort. You’re looking for a group of people who are interested in what you are interested in, and an environment where you feel seen and valued for being yourself, that encourages conversation and connection.

    Be courageous and curious as you visit different groups in your area and be willing to tell the truth. The body doesn’t lie! If you feel dread in entering the space or find yourself judging everyone, trust yourself – this is not your tribe!

  2. Seek out mentors: It’s also tricky to find a mentor if you are an entrepreneur. Essential in a mentor is the ability to see you as an individual and not to try and ‘cookie cutter’ you into their model. Take time to get to know the person you are considering.

    Ask questions to determine who they are, how they do things, and if possible, watch them in action. The biggest factor for us is, “How do I feel before a session with my mentor, during and afterwards?” At the end of your session, you should be feeling strengthened not depleted.

  3. Reconnect with your friends: It’s not about the quantity of your relationships, but the quality. The antidote to loneliness is the level of authentic sharing. Most of us only have a small handful of close friends.

    Research shows that it is the deeper level of talking and connection that positively affects well-being. Reach out!  Yes, it’s one more thing to do to make the effort to connect with your friends but if you feel heard you feel better and your work is enhanced.

  4. Make new friends: If you have lost touch with past friends or have moved away from one another, there are places where it’s easier to connect with others. People bond more easily as students, for example, so join a writing class, a personal or professional growth course. See who is drawn to you and whom you are drawn to. Notice how you feel around their energy. Take your time. Allow relationships to grow organically.

  5. Be a part of something bigger than yourself: Explore one of your favorite causes by asking how could you get more involved. It’s interesting how we get by giving!

    Who knows who you will meet as you invest a percentage of your time in giving back to others.

  6. Don’t hide out! It may be a stretch to break old habits but as we all know, if you do what you’ve always done you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.  And, as we’ve often said, “This is not a going it alone lifetime!”

If you resonate with the information shared above, you are ripe for change. Pick one or more of the six suggestions and take the plunge!

If you feel like sharing your ideas for overcoming entrepreneurial loneliness, we’d love to hear from you!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

Visit www.WhatTrulyMatters.com to claim instant access to your free gift for your juiciest life EVER!