Understanding Self Care and How to Find Your Balance Points

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Remember how highly motivated we were when the concept of balance was introduced many years ago only to be hugely disillusioned to discover how illusive it actually was?

Eventually, many of us became critical of the whole idea – throwing the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak. Because so many of our lives are spent working in, or running a company, as well as running a household, and for some of us raising a family and being responsible for aging parents, the concept of balance may feel laughable.

One of the first things to go is our self-care regime. While this is understandable, it is a huge oversight. For all of us in business, you must understand that you are the commodity that you are selling!

Think about that for a minute… You might be tempted to think that it’s your product or your service, but, in truth, people do business with you because of you, your energy. If they are not attracted by you and your energy they will simple go elsewhere.

If you let yourself get run down by stress, exhaustion, or by taking on other people’s energy, you find that, over time, your outer business will reflect your inner reality.

Motivation becomes harder to hard, innovation is less readily accessible, and you stop attracting high quality clients and projects. This is because stress and fatigue cause your vibrational frequency to drop, and it’s a cosmic truth that you always attract your vibrational match.

In this powerful context, perhaps it’s time to revisit the concept of balance?

What does it mean to be balanced?

I like to think that it means that I have a handle on the various elements in my life that nurture my happiness and don’t feel that I am being pulled too hard in any one direction.

This requires consciously choosing how to spend your time and showing up fully present for what you do have on your schedule.

If other concerns or worries present themselves, or if you are running a back story in your head of how tired you are or whether you’ll be able to get everything done on time – you have a choice point: do you let these thoughts further deplete you or do you bring your focus back to what you are doing?

More often than not, you feel calmer, more grounded, clear-headed, motivated and creative when you are fully present with what you are doing.

When we are balanced, we can be powerful without overpowering others and we can be in control without being controlling. It’s important to find the balance point where we are in our power, aligned with our values, that don’t limit others’ choices but do limit how their choices influence us.

How do you find your balance?

Although most people see the need for balance between work and personal life, here’s another way to think of it. The elements in life that require the most balancing can be divided into two categories: inner and outer. We feel out of balance when we focus more on one than the other.

For example, you may find that if you focus more on outer things–like your work, relationships, and tasks, you pay very little attention to your feelings, to what is going on inside your heart and mind.

On the other hand, if you find that you spend much of your time self-examining, you might be missing out on the experience of taking enough action in the world or the experience of actually living.

Living in balance means being aware of the continuum within each of the following categories:

  1. Inner:
    • Challenging yourself intellectually vs. creating opportunities for your mind to rest
    • Giving love vs. receiving love
    • Healthy eating, drinking, exercising vs. resting and indulging in your favorite food treats
  2. Outer
    • Driving to achieve success vs. enjoying the process
    • Satisfying your social desires vs. taking time for yourself and practicing self-care
    • Fulfilling your familial responsibilities vs. creating healthy boundaries
    • Allocating time for things you enjoy doing vs. making sure you don’t overdo it

As you can see, both ends of each spectrum are actually positive; but if either side is taken to an extreme, something that is intended to be positive can end up depleting you and throwing your out of balance.

It’s helpful to check in with yourself to see if you feel balanced.

Be aware:

  • What’s going on in your body? Are you tired, hungry, thirsty, stiff?
  • What’s going on in your mind? Overwhelmed, worried, anxious, scattered?
  • What’s going on in your heart? Sad, hurt, shut down, angry?
  • What’s going on with your spirit? Disconnected, abandoned, disillusioned?


  • Name what you have noticed out loud.


  • Choose to take a short break to reconnect with what truly matters before continuing. In this break, make a plan to give yourself what you need.

The secret to balance is simple. It’s about being fully present with what you are doing. In doing so, you are connected to your intellect, your intuition, your feelings and to your body.

The balance point is in your presence.

What was your biggest take-away after reading this article? Please share your thoughts below!

Aimée Lyndon Adams

About the Author, Aimée Lyndon-Adams

Aimée Lyndon-Adams is both a seasoned corporate executive and a metaphysician practicing spiritual energy healing. She has provided coaching and healing sessions to individuals, couples and groups and has offered an energy management curriculum of training classes for many years. She is an articulate and charismatic speaker and facilitator.

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