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How To Move Past Resistance to Get What You Want the Law of Attraction Way!

The Secret to Success

I’m sure you are familiar with this phrase ‘what you resist persists’. Have you ever wondered why that happens? Well it’s pure Law of Attraction 101 which states

I attract to my life whatever I give my attention, energy or focus to
whether wanted or unwanted.

We all have things in our business that we ‘resist’ doing even though we ‘know’ we need to do them. Those things that you are attracting in your conscious mind are going to pop up and annoy you until you make a decision what to do about them.

And all that ‘annoying’ is a negative vibration that will just keep on being annoying. However, you have two options when something comes up that you keep resisting. Both options require that you take a good look at what it is you are resisting and dive into the ‘why’ you are resisting it.


This requires that you acknowledge that you know this next move is good for business. Face the fear-based limiting belief and make a list of all the ‘benefits’ that you will attract by just doing it!

Focus on how great you will feel when you have tackled what you are resisting. It’s very empowering to face your fears and just do it! You will be grateful that you did and that gratitude rates a high-vibe in the law of attraction world.


Perhaps what you are resisting is something that keeps niggling at you yet you are not sure you really need to do it.

So is it time for you to do what we In the Law of Attraction community like to say, very kindly…

Build a bridge and get over it…

Here are a few examples of client ‘resist-persist’ situations and the decisions they made to change that.

I remember reading a post by a colleague of mine, Susan Friesen of eVision Media, where she talked about how for years she had resisted getting a new photo taken for her business. She had all the ‘reasons aka excuses’ that made sense to her and they were all fear based and founded on old limiting beliefs.

Yet when she actually made the decision to get her photo taken – well the results were outstanding:

  1. She got over her limiting fear-beliefs and she felt so much better to let them go because they were not true
  2. Her ‘tribe’ loved that she shared her story and her new photo because she looks amazing and she is using that in all her marketing efforts
  3. She feels better about her look and that has translated into all areas of her life where she spends just a little bit more time feeling proud of how she looks!

A client of mine ‘knew’ that she needed to create a social media strategy but she kept procrastinating and unfortunately complaining about how she had this great website and posted occasionally on Facebook- with no results.

Her complaint that she wasn’t attracting any clients made her feel angry and so every time she thought about it she emitted a negative vibe!

So we had a discussion about why she was resisting learning what she needed to know, and then finally the resistance eased and she said “All right what do I need to do to get more exposure and client attraction through social media?” With that shift in no longer resisting – she decided to ‘just do it’ and her results are getting better every single day. And she is actually enjoying it!

Another client of mine ‘knew’ that she needed to ‘fire’ a client but she resisted because of her limiting fear-based belief that she wouldn’t attract any other clients.

Perhaps you might be thinking this yourself. The truth is that every time you talk with that client you feel negative energy and that drags you down.

Once you ‘build your bridge’ and let them go you open up space for new clients and when you create your ‘ideal client profile’ you will be on your way to attracting clients or customers you love to work with!

So I invite you to take some time and find out what you are resisting, determine why, and then decide to you accept the challenge to do it anyway, or is it really something you can just let go…

About the Author, Dana J. Smithers


Dana J. Smithers is on a mission to inspire and empower women entrepreneurs around the world. At 50 she left a high-paying corporate job and over the years launched 3 businesses earning a 6-figure income.

As a Certified Law of Attraction Trainer she you how to use LOA tools to build a business by working on your limiting beliefs. As a Certified Sacred Gifts Guide she helps you discover what makes you feel on purpose and fulfilled. As an Emotion Code practitioner Dana knows how to release your trapped negative emotions that have built up over the years and are now holding you back from moving forward. She invites you to sign up for her enewsletter for tips, insights and inspiration and her FREE ebook 'The POWER of your WORDS' at Empowered Women in Business. She looks forward to making a real connection with you on www.FB.com/coachdanasmithers. Her NEW Law of Attraction Gratitude Journal is available on www.amazon.com.

How the 2015 Facebook Algorithm Changes Affect You: Popular content rules while spam drools

Welcome to Facebook

Is Facebook marketing dead?  Not yet.

While it is certain that the January 2015 Facebook algorithm update will force businesses to change their strategy, there’s still value to be found on Facebook for brands.

While this popular Social Media channel still provides the potential to reach thousands of viewers, the challenge now is how to ensure your Facebook business page content appears in your fan’s news feeds.

Why Facebook made the algorithm change

It seems Facebook hosted a survey a while back and asked users what they could do to improve.  Many users complained about getting too much promotional content in their news feeds. (If you participated in this survey, leave a comment below to share what your take was!)

In response, Facebook implemented an algorithm change effective January 2015.  The goal with this update was to show viewers more of what they want to see and less of what they didn’t want.

What this means to you: The 3 things that are less likely to appear in news feeds now

  1. Posts that solely push people to buy a product or install an app
  2. Posts that push people to enter promotions and sweepstakes with no real context
  3. Posts that reuse the exact same content from ads

What Should Businesses Do Now To Get The Best News Feed Exposure on Facebook?

Here are 7 changes you can make now to boost your exposure due to Facebook’s algorithm changes:

  1. Post videos directly into Facebook. Facebook is favouring videos using their new Facebook video player over ones hosted at YouTube or Instagram.
  2. Lead Facebook readers to subscribe to your newsletter. Since now you can’t promote your products and services as much directly on Facebook, moving fans over to your newsletter will allow you to still share offers to them.
  3. Post tried and true content. Test posts over at other social platforms to see which types of content get the best response. You want to share only the “best of the best” if you have a shot at getting it in the news feed.
  4. Review Facebook Insights. Pay close attention to which types of content gets the best response. Use that as a guide for future posts.  Remember that Facebook is favouring content from businesses who post popular types of content that users like to see.
  5. Use Facebook Ads to ensure that promotional posts get seen. Since organic distribution in the Facebook news feed is decreasing, you should boost Facebook advertising for your business in order to maintain the same levels of engagement.

    However be warned that Facebook penalizes you if you reuse the same ad.  So don’t just repost an old ad.  Instead tweak your ad before posting it.

  6. Keep your eye out on trending topics and stories of the day in the media and other social media topics.  This type of content will rank with high relevancy for Facebook viewers as well.  People can’t resist sharing their thoughts on big news stories.
  7. Engage with your own content and encourage your team to do the same. Leave a comment for your own posts, respond to other’s replies, and like their responses.  Encourage employees, team members, and other close colleagues to do the same.  You may want to form a pact with high profile friends and agree to like/share each other’s content.

Bottom Line: Give fans the best Facebook experience possible.

Facebook users have voted and now the news feed is rewarding them with more of what they want, less of what they don’t.

Smart businesses that listen to their audience and post relevant content will get the highest visibility in the Facebook news feed.

To your success,

P.S. If you want to learn more about Facebook and other Social Media platforms, consider joining our live monthly Social Blast group coaching program where I cover these topics and other eMarketing strategies to help build your business. Learn more here: www.socialblastcoaching.com/

About the Author, Susan Friesen

Susan Friesen offering 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum ResultsSusan Friesen, founder of the award-winning web development and digital marketing firm eVision Media, is a Web Specialist, Business & Marketing Consultant, and Social Media Advisor. She works with entrepreneurs who struggle with having the lack of knowledge, skill and support needed to create their online business presence.

As a result of working with Susan and her team, clients feel confident and relieved knowing their online marketing is in trustworthy and caring hands so they can focus on building their business with peace of mind at having a perfect support system in place to guide them every step of the way.

Visit www.ultimatewebsiteguide.ca and download your FREE "Ultimate Guide to Improving Your Website's Profitability - 10 Critical Questions You Must Ask to Get Maximum Results".

The Most Effective Trick I Know for Achieving Your Resolutions and Goals

New Year's Resolutions

I haven’t made a proper New Year’s resolution in I don’t know how many years. I’ve always been good about following through with goals. But for some reason, just like 80/90/whatever percentage of the population, I would inevitably fail on my resolutions within the first month or so.

This year, I made a non-resolution. And I made a plan to stick with it.

We pretty much set ourselves up for failure when we make New Year’s resolutions, don’t we? Think about it: It’s the night of celebrating after a week or more of overeating and over-sleeping. All of a sudden, with no preparation or plans, we think we can say, “I resolve to lose 20 pounds,” and magically it will happen?


New Year’s resolutions aren’t like birthday wishes we send out to the Universe while blowing out candles. Resolutions are commitments to ourselves that require some sort of plan to achieve them.

“But, ‘I resolve to work out every day’ is a plan,” you might be saying.

No, it’s not a plan; it’s a goal. “I work out every day” is a goal that needs a plan.

The problem with resolutions is that we try to force a new habit on ourselves without giving ourselves a structure to adopt it. For example, what does “I work out every day” really mean? It could mean you go running every day. Or walking or swimming or biking. Or maybe it’s doing yoga or dancing or lifting weights.

How long are you going to run or walk or bike or do yoga? What time of day? What if it’s raining out? What if it’s bat-butt cold outside?

This non-resolution that I set for myself on January 1st this year is “to walk, at least to the park and back, every day. Even when it’s raining or unbearably cold out.”

So, that’s my goal. What’s my structure? How am I going to make sure I actually do it?

I learned this amazingly effective trick in a coaching class I took a few years ago with Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of Succeed. Heidi’s research on willpower shows that willpower is like a muscle. We have to exercise it to make it stronger, but overdoing it will exhaust it.

Her research also showed that we can make it easier to exercise our willpower muscle by giving it prompts to trigger it automatically. It’s like finding the reflex part of the willpower muscle. When the doctor taps your knee in just the right spot, your leg reflexively kicks out. We’re looking for just the right spot to tap on your resolution willpower muscle that will make it reflexively kick into gear.

The trick is to create a “when-then” statement. The “when” part is “just the right spot for tapping.” The “then” part is what happens when your willpower muscle kicks into gear.

An important thing to remember is that you must create the willpower reflex ahead of time, before you need it, and then practice it. It’s not naturally an automatic reflex like your knee-leg reflex. You’ve got to train it, not unlike Pavlov training his dogs with a bell.

Imagine this scene from just last week: I get my son up for school and see that it’s zero degrees Fahrenheit outside. (I start wearing a heavy winter coat when it hits 49. So my natural reflex to zero degrees is to stay in bed!) He goes to school that day by carpool, not by bus. That means that I don’t have to leave the house that day. I can stay inside and stay warm(ish) all day . . . and give up on my goal of walking every day.

Would I have a valid excuse not to walk? Shoot, yes. It’s zero degrees outside. The last thing I want to do is open the door, much less actually walk to the park.

But here’s where my when-then reflex training comes in. On January 1st, when making my non-resolution of walking at least to the park every day, I created a when-then statement: “When my son goes to school in the morning, I will walk to the park and back.”

I wrote down my when-then statement, and, here’s the important part, I practiced it. I sat down and said it out loud to myself several times. Then I said it out loud again later. And again later.

I said it when I went to sleep the night before my son went back to school. I said it when I woke him up for the first day back at school. I said it the morning I saw it was zero degrees Fahrenheit outside. And I said it when he hopped into the carpool car and I was tempted to curl up on the couch.

“When my son goes to school, I will walk to the park and back.”

And I did! I looked ridiculous in my face mask, but the when-then reflex worked. I walked to the park and back. It’s not much, but it’s more than I normally do in the winter.

If you’re wondering what I do for the weekends when my son doesn’t go to school, I have another when-then statement for that situation: “When I’m done eating breakfast, I will walk to the park.”

Creating – and practicing! – a when-then statement is a powerful technique for any action-resistant tasks you have. It’s great for changing your diet, quitting smoking or drinking, starting any new habit, or eliminating an undesirable behavior.

“When I feel like eating a cookie, I will have an apple instead.”
“When I feel like having a beer, I will drink a kombucha instead.”
“When I feel like yelling, I will take a breath and whisper.”

Here are a few tips for creating your when-then statement:

  1. Make it short
  2. Make it specific
  3. Make it easy

Your when-then statement needs to be something you can easily remember. Make it short and sweet. Rambling isn’t powerful, no matter how poetic it may be.

Be very specific with your when-then statement. I was specific about “when my son goes to school” and “when I’m done eating breakfast.” Those are my triggers. Remember, the doctor isn’t tapping all over your leg. She goes straight to the reflex spot on your knee.

Make sure the “then” part of your statement is something you can actually do. Notice I didn’t say “I will walk 5 miles in a blizzard.” Walking to the park and back takes me 10 minutes. That’s totally doable.

Remember that the key to making this work is to practice your when-then statement so that it becomes a willpower reflex. Practice it enough and when you want a cookie, you WILL quickly stop wanting the cookie because a Pavlovian-like response kicks in making you want an apple instead.

I love using the when-then technique to help me achieve my willpower-resistant goals. And I’m actually excited about following through with my non-resolution to walk every day.

How can you create when-then statements to help with your goals?


About the Author, Kelly Eckert

Kelly Eckert is an author, professional speaker, and shamanic leadership coach. She is a graduate of Harvard College with a bachelor's degree in biological anthropology and Tufts Graduate School of Arts and Sciences with a master's degree in biology.

Kelly is a certified MentorCoach® and a certified coach member of the International Coach Federation. She is the creator of the Fear Releasing Method™ and Coaching with Animal Archetypes™. Kelly speaks nationally and internationally on the topics of fear and unleashing the animal within. Her latest book, What's Your Spirit Animal?, is now available. Find out more at kellyeckert.com.